Finding your identity again after miscarriage
I feel like I'm just known as the one who had a miscarriage at the moment. My colleagues tip toe around me, some of my family don't speak to me because they don't know what to say and I feel like I've lost myself.
Is that a normal thing to feel when you've been through a miscarriage?
Through all the pregnancy and birth announcements I keep seeing at the moment and the fact my manger is pregnant (1 month ahead of what I would have been), I've tried so hard to stay positive and show those people that I am so happy for them but I keep getting comments like 'don't worry, it'll be your turn again soon' or 'you're so young, you can try again'
When does my life stop being about my miscarriage?
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Grieve how you feel you should/need to. It’s all up to you and honestly all about you and dad… but it’s harder on you when your the one going through it.. you got a support system and we believe in you ❤️
I know it hard. Miscarriage is more common than you think. I had 4. It’s hard because you can’t explain it or have an an answer. It will work out one day. It did for me
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I went through the same thing last May.. My closest friend at the time was a week ahead of me and was so excited for her first baby she shared everything with me and it killed… my boss was a few months ahead of me and it killed to see her get bigger and go on maternity leave and come back and see photos… everyone else my dad, friends, everything walked of egg shells around me my own fiancé wouldn’t talk about out loss… I cried every day for months… my life honestly still revolves around my loss…. The “your young you can try again” sucks. It broke me every time because that doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter that I was 22 and have years to try. I lost my baby that’s all that mattered to me… this time.. I told very very few people until I hit the second trimester… even so only work people and a few family members and friends know. When I have my baby I want him all to myself for a while so I can grieve what I lost and appreciate what I have by myself for a few days…