Finding your identity again after miscarriage

I feel like I'm just known as the one who had a miscarriage at the moment. My colleagues tip toe around me, some of my family don't speak to me because they don't know what to say and I feel like I've lost myself. Is that a normal thing to feel when you've been through a miscarriage? Through all the pregnancy and birth announcements I keep seeing at the moment and the fact my manger is pregnant (1 month ahead of what I would have been), I've tried so hard to stay positive and show those people that I am so happy for them but I keep getting comments like 'don't worry, it'll be your turn again soon' or 'you're so young, you can try again' When does my life stop being about my miscarriage?

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I know it hard. Miscarriage is more common than you think. I had 4. It’s hard because you can’t explain it or have an an answer. It will work out one day. It did for me

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Grieve how you feel you should/need to. It’s all up to you and honestly all about you and dad… but it’s harder on you when your the one going through it.. you got a support system and we believe in you ❤️

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I went through the same thing last May.. My closest friend at the time was a week ahead of me and was so excited for her first baby she shared everything with me and it killed… my boss was a few months ahead of me and it killed to see her get bigger and go on maternity leave and come back and see photos… everyone else my dad, friends, everything walked of egg shells around me my own fiancé wouldn’t talk about out loss… I cried every day for months… my life honestly still revolves around my loss…. The “your young you can try again” sucks. It broke me every time because that doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter that I was 22 and have years to try. I lost my baby that’s all that mattered to me… this time.. I told very very few people until I hit the second trimester… even so only work people and a few family members and friends know. When I have my baby I want him all to myself for a while so I can grieve what I lost and appreciate what I have by myself for a few days…

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Everyone else who didn’t see me in person knew I was pregnant after my baby turned 1 month old. It does get better but u will never forget ur angel baby. I’ll never forget them since they were my first love. N I pray that wherever they are- they’re taking care of each other. U just have to own it. I have owned it- I have posted for the world to see. I have 2 angel babies.

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I know how you feel. I lost my first 2 babies and after the first miscarriage 2 of my work colleague were pregnant. I was devastated and each time I see them I wanted to cry especially since one of them had their due date in the exact same month as I would be due. After my second miscarriage my close friend was pregnant and she did not tell me. She was afraid. I noticed her baby bump coming thru and that day at work I felt as though I was feeling shocks throughout my body. I was walking and working but I wasn’t present in my own body. I was broken. N as u said- everyone tipped toed around me. They tried with the comforting words but wasn’t comforting at all. They tried with the sending flowers but I didn’t want that- I wanted my baby back. For my third pregnancy I announced nothing. Not even to my family. Only individuals know I’m pregnant was those who could see a big belly in front of me. I think I broke the news to my immediate family when I was about 20 weeks along.