Trigger warning. Baby loss/friend loss

I got pregnant back in 2022. I had quite a few close friends that I’ve been friends with since Middle School. I’m 24 now. When I got pregnant they all seemed to be really distant. Stopped inviting me to to hang. And the 1 time they invited me to hangout was at the Zoo at 8pm on a Sunday night. I obviously didn’t feel like doing that being pregnant. The only other time I heard from them was when I lost my son. He died in the NICU. They came to his funeral which I appreciate so so much. But after that it was just silence. They didn’t reach out to me at all. To see how I’m doing or to hangout. I had just gone through one of the worst things I will probably ever go through in life and it felt like they weren’t there for me and they still aren’t. I don’t know if I should continue to try being their friends or not or if I should just give up? They invited me to do something this weekend and I’m trying to decide if I should go.. I thought they were my best friends but my best friends should’ve been there for me going through what I went through. I know they don’t know what it’s like watching you baby take their last breath. But I would’ve been there for them if it happened to them. Sorry just needed to vent a little..

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@Kyndle thank you!! ❤️

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@Kenni thank you! And I don’t expect anyone to know how to help or know what to say but at least a “how are you?” Would do ya know?? But the fact they never even ask me how I’m doing ever..

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Death makes people feel confused and awkward. They may have stayed away bc theyre assholes or they may have stayed away bc theyre immature and didnt know what to say because honestly theres nothing to say in the face of that kind of loss. Im so sorry for what you went through

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If I could hug you right now, I would!! ❤️ Lifes too short, it's not worth wasting it on people who only seem to want you around when it's convenient for them, especially if they couldn't even be 100% there for you when you need(ed) them the most. Please feel free to message me anytime 🫶🏼

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I’m squeezing you through my phone right now. I am mournful of your loss with you. Nobody will ever get it unless they’ve been through it. You’re so strong. I love you. Your friends definitely could’ve been better support. Praying that peace will find you and heal you. I think it might be time for a new friend mama. 🥺

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@Erin thank you it’s been tough!

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feel free to reach out any time girl. i can’t imagine how you feel and what you have been through and i hope you are doing okay. keep your head high and strong girl. ♥️

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@Erin thank you! I really appreciate you for responding to my long rant! I will definitely need to do that 😊❤️ thank you for the advice!

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yeah girl i think that’s your best just because it’ll be good for you even if it’s not super enjoyable..it’s good to just get out. make yourself feel good the day prior to going out. treat yourself somehow that day so regardless it’s a good outcome for you. you are strong girly and you’ve done so much on your own. we’re all here for you momma. best wishes to you and your family. ♥️♥️♥️ maybe try to find some moms on here to just be message buddies with who can connect and be there on the same level. 🤗

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@Erin thank you so much ❤️ I try so hard not to be upset because I know they can’t understand what I’m going through but I am. And I feel like I have every right to be.. I did have conversations with them before I got pregnant about them not inviting me or including me in things they did together and they said they’d start inviting me more and never did. I think I might go this weekend just to see how it goes and sorta get my “answer” if I should just let go or not.

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i just want to give you a hug hun. i’m so sorry 🥺 sometimes it’s worth it to realize when it’s time to let go of these types of friendships where people don’t take your feelings and things you’re going through into consideration and be there for you more. if that happened to a best friend... i would be there in every moment that i could be for her … 😥♥️