Mil said she finally can sleep with my son ( her grandchild).
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I don’t think it’s weird. Seems like she just wants a close bond with him but how you feel is valid so you have to set those boundaries whenever it arises.
It’s strange how she worded it. I would ask her some follow up questions. Has she been thinking about this for a while? Why? Is this something she did with her grandmother? Etc.
When I was really young, I would sometimes sleep in the bed with my grandma (maternal side) and I enjoyed it. We’d watch cartoons and stuff. But she was extremely involved, like a second mom. And at the time we all lived together anyway! So idk, I guess it depends on the dynamic.
I definitely think it depends on your relationship with them because i wouldn’t mind my mom sleeping with my child but she also wouldn’t say “ i can finally sleep with her” it’s like she has been wanting it for so long??? But my MIL on the hand.. i just don’t feel like we have a relationship like that and would find it very weird. Definitely wouldn’t be happening for my LO.
But I only slept with her if my grandpa slept in the spare room
I used to sleep with my grandma during sleep overs all the time!! I was older though! More like 10+
I used to share a bed with my grandmothers (both my mums and dads side) growing up. I wanted the company and I never felt uncomfortable. I have always had a very close relationship with all my grandparents so this really never even came to mind. I also wouldn’t have a problem with my mother in law or own mother sharing a bed with my daughter when they slept over. They’re my parenting village and I love their support. I can understand why some wouldn’t like this due to their own personal experiences etc. but in my own personal experience. I’m not concerned. The weird part of the whole situation here is that it was the first thing said BUT it might of just been something she thought would make your child feel more relaxed when sleeping as he might want the company and support?
This is so bloody weird! Who shares a bed with the grandma I never have 😂
I think the weirdest part is that was her first thought. I wouldn’t want either my mum or MIL to share a bed with my son at all but would be weirded out that she wanted to so much that she mentioned it so quickly
It’s down to you but personally I find it uncomfortable. I would like to think I could trust both my partners family and my own but you never know what happens for sure when you’re not around. I would rather not take the risk, for the child or for the adult. Maybe that’s overprotective, maybe it’s realistic, whatever people say , if you find it weird don’t take that risk .
When my daughter sleeps at grandparents she won’t sleep anywhere else but their bed! And that is on mine and my husbands side of the family. And when I was a kid there was nothing more I loved than sleeping with my nanny!!
No that's weird imo
I loved sleeping with my grandma, it always made me feel so special 🥲🥲
Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable with my kids sleeping with anyone besides me and my partner, especially if they're at an age where they don't know how to explain if anything happens. I slept with my grandma a few times when I was younger, even when I was older. It was always fine, albeit uncomfortable with her loud alarms that she slept through lol. So I have no bad personal experience, but I've known far too many people who have been abused by family members. Her comment seemed really weird and would definitely make me feel extra weary. Just like when others are insistent on alone time with LOs. Like why? There are so many other ways to bond.
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I nap with my daughter. I think it’s normal for some people but if you’re worried about them rolling on the young child or something then absolutely not. If it’s just me in bed we sometimes sleep in the same bed but we only have a queen so it can’t fit my husband, me and our toddler well. She sleeps through the night in her own room and occasionally naps on our bed by me if we both are napping.
I think what makes it weird is that she said she can finally do it as if she’s been desperate to for 2 years but hasn’t been able to but now she finally can!!! Post writer if you’re uncomfortable with it I’m sure you can figure out ways to not let it happen?
I would sleep with my grandma when I was a kid.. she had a spare bedroom and I had a cot and bed in that room but I didn’t want that and would just sleep with her. There was never a issue with that as my grandma was like my mum. I have no relationship with my parents now and neither does my partner so in that regard he would never sleep with his grandparents regardless of the situation.. heck he would never even sleep around their houses let alone in their beds! I think it all depends on the relationship and how your family dynamic works.
My son sleeps with my parents when they watch him
The first thing I thought was “that’s just such a weird thing to say”. Nothing wrong with cuddling children, just at a normal time and a normal place lol. If my grandmother told me to come sleep with her when I was I was a kid I would have thought “this lady is weird”😂 and I would have been uncomfortable for sure
I just want to say, you know the situation best. Follow your gut, and you know her more than all of us. It's a bit odd to me especially being a mother in law and not your own parent so you don't know 100% intentions. I always stay skeptical and have trust issues because you see situations where things happen with family members. I don't mean to worry, but just wanted to give my perspective.
@Preet MIL is just as much of a grandparent as your own mother.
Honestly I would say not normal unless you don’t mind! Also depends on the relationship you have with her
That’s weird for sure.
A lot of comments here refer to it being ok with their own parents. Remember, she is talking about her mil. Almost all of us are ok for our child to spend time in whatever way with our own parents. Read the posts properly. @incognito yes it's proper weird. Don't do it. Find any excuse or speak openly and tell her you're not comfortable.
That it was the first thing she said is strange
That's not normal. If you feel uncomfortable then don't let this happen. I wouldn't let my baby sleep with no-one except from me and her father .
My son sleeps with my MIL when he stays with her because he is scared of the dark
Outside of crawling into my parents bed I never shared a bed with a relative until I was older. I was probably four and wanted to share a bed with my aunt when visiting my grandma. Hoping she didn’t mean anything by it, but I definitely understand why you think that was strange.
For me I’ve never slept with my child in bed with me so I’d personally find it weird and it would make me uncomfortable
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Were you slept with as a child? Maybe it’s weird for you.
Why wouldn’t it be normal lol my mil and my grandma sleep w my daughter sometimes if she stays over and she loves it, she’s just excited to be with her grand baby
@Olivia 💚 yeah I think I found it strange as that was her first thought… and my son doesn’t sleep at theirs during the day when we visit
My girls used to sleep with my parents when they spent the night there, their house has the master at opposite end of the house so they slept with them or in their room on an air mattress till they grew out of being afraid of the dark. It’s not bad but it’s weird that that was her first thought.
@Angel because my son never takes day naps in her house and thus is the first thing she mentioned. So don’t get what she meant, whether she meant she’d want to keep him overnight? Also, I think I may be overprotective as I don’t think I’d want him sleeping with my own parents either? Unless was for day naps idm
@Angel exactly Ikr. My son has slept with my mom in her bed. And with my dad in his bed at his house. I see no reason it wouldn’t be normal
Well my mum co-sleeps with my daughter when she’s at her house? Why is it wrong?
Depends on culture. In my family, snuggling is okay, but the actual sleeping through the night is a no.
That's not normal
Ya it’s fine
No that’s not normal.
That’s so wrong I’d never let anyone who wasn’t me or baby’s father share a bed. Not to mention it’s dangerous!
For me is normal. I’ve slept with both of my grandmas when I was a kid. It felt similar to sleep with my mom.