in February 2023 Babies 🇺🇸

Baby shower

My husband's friends wife is having a baby. For their shower, they said bring diapers and wipes for raffle and specified what size diaper to bring plus they have a registry. So basically we have to bring diapers wipes and a gift. That's a lot. Plus they don't write thank you notes. Now, we didn't have a shower but we listed our registry and only one of his friends got us something. Am I being unreasonable?

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Do what you can. I did a diaper raffle and some people brought some and some didn't. I wasnt offended either way and people bought things off our registry as well as brought diapers but I did have a small shower so I didn't get much over all but If you want to just bring a gift from the registry do it. And if you just wanna bring diapers just bring diapers

You just bring the diapers and the wipes if you want to have your name placed in the raffle to win something. It's not mandatory.

And if you didn't have a baby shower, lots of people aren't going to get you something unless they go to the shower.

We did a diaper shower with a raffle. Diapers aren’t required it’s just a little extra. Do one or the other or whatever you are able to do i

How do you know they don't write thank you notes? I'm very curious... Did they say "we don't write thank you notes?" or do you just know from past stuff? @Alison I find not writing thank you notes to be very inconsiderate.

@Alyssa from past stuff. His other friend when she had a shower, we never got a note. And also for me, we had a microwedding and we didn't want a baby shower but we had an engagement party. They didn't give a gift for the engagement party and never got us anything for the baby, even something small like congratulations. Like my friend's dad died, I didn't go to the funeral but I still sent them a sympathy basket.

I get it. To me it's not about the gift it's about the gesture so it's annoying when someone just doesn't do anything at all.