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How would you respond?

A friend (someone I considered a very good friend, or one of my best friends) messaged me saying that she had just seen another friend and her baby and realised that she is yet to see my baby and me and asked if I’m free next week. I responded, wow it took you almost a year to realise mate! I might be free, I’ll have to check my calendar and around when was she thinking. I’ve included the texts and my friends replies in the pictures in the comments. If it was you, how would you respond?
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I am neurospicy and honestly can forget to talk to people for ages. My best mate gets it. Her family always tell her to give up on me. Yet she knows if she needs help I am the first one there.

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Different to the other comments but I would meet up with her (just you and not your son) and then see how she acts, if she’s not making the effort then bin her off. It is out of order! People are glued and I mean GLUED to their phones, unless she doesn’t have social media or anything it takes two mins to respond. I have friends that have done this and I’ve stopped making the effort, life’s too short to be second thought… especially if you would of reached out sooner if it was the shoe on the other foot.

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You could’ve invited her over during this year, not even to see your baby but to chill since she’s your best friend. Baby’s don’t even do much and are cute but mostly exciting to their own family. Time just flew for her, her year sounds exciting, and by contrast you probably lived the same routine a lot due to the baby and that year probably felt longer.

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I would accept her apology.... Before getting so busy she may of been trying to give you and baby a little bit of space then possibly just got busy with life.

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I would accept the apology and see how welcoming her back into the fold goes, but if she were to dip out again definitely not the kind of energy you need in your or your baby’s lives

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I don’t see why this is such a big deal lol… if you are a grown adult and want to continue having the relationship/friendship make an effort. If not, just say you aren’t available and move on.

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Sometimes people get caught up in life and it moves fast….did u ever contact her to see how her life was going ? she has reached out to you, either politely decline or accept and live forward

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@Destiny yeah I see what you’re saying, depression and anxiety can ply a big part and it’s never easy to tell who has it or doesn’t have it. not been easy for me as I’m heavily introverted and have ppd. Yep meeting up with other mum friends or just friends in general can be very difficult and takes many months in advance to prepare.

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Time flies and life gets busy! I think you're making more out of it than it actually is.

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As someone who has adhd I can relate to your friend. I NEVER mean to let time go or to seem like i don’t care. I literally have NO concept of time! I always tell my good friends to double text me. Like the “heeyyy how you been text” and then the 24 hours later “bitch I said how you doing!” 😂😂

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@Janea thanks for your honesty

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Did you reach out to her? The two way street thing is number one. Number two is she apologized and is making an effort. Do you want her to be your friend or not? You have no clue what she’s experienced this past year if you haven’t spoken with her. If it were my friend, I’d be grateful for the opportunity to catch up

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@Nicole I did make effort to see her and we made arrangements to meet a few times but she’d cancel each time the day before when I would check if we were still good to meet. She had a couple of pre wedding events one which I couldn’t attend coz I had no one to look after my baby, but one I did go to as I was able to arrange childcare and of course her wedding I went to as well. Thanks for reading and responding x

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Life gets in the way sometimes. I dunno about you, but the last few years have been mental. It’s easy to let friendships fall by the wayside when you have so much other crazy shit going on. Go easy on her and agree to meet. X

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@Shelby I second accepting her apology. We all go through different waves of life. All my friends and I have kids/babies now. Meeting up is usually a 2-3 month meeting process since we live over 2 hours away 🤣 plus you never know depression/anxiety can play part in people's desire to reach out and visit.

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Yeah I would also accept her apology if she was a good friend, sometimes it can be so easy to get distracted by life. It can be hurtful but it can be fixed. Also did you make the effort to see her? Friendship is 2way and soemtimes its easy to wait for someone to reach out xxx

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You’re being harsh but yes she could’ve came sooner. I’d accept her apology and let her come.

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I would accept her apology and move on

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