My husband and I are about to have a conversation with his mom really soon to set boundaries and I know she is going to get angry. She has gotten upset and very very emotional. She’s a very dramatic person 🙄 so freaking frustrating
My MIL did something i didn’t like so i set a boundary with her and messaged me saying “fuck you” so i turned it into a parade of “fuck you’s” and sent one right back to me but with mine i said a few more things to let her know i wasn’t playing..
I personally feel it’s because they never set boundaries with their children, so they feel why have boundaries been set for them. My MiL let people kiss my husband when he was born and I tell her multiple times before he’s even handed over no to kiss my baby. She did it at Christmas (he was premature and it hadn’t even passed his due date yet) I covered his face and told her no. She looked horrified that I told her no and just told me he’ll have to get used to germs at some point.
No but for real, what chemical reaction takes place in women when they become grandmothers? My mother seems to change overnight from zero to 100 overbearing over my daughter.
I’ve been wanting to do this with my mil, but I already know she will get defensive and use the you’re a first time mom I’ve done this two times line on me. How did you initiate the conversation?
For the why: I’m going to say simple arrogance. She feels entitled and when you set a boundary it hurts her ego. She thinks she’s above you, she deserve more. Unfortunately this means there she also sees you as beneath her. Likely MIL who are like this condition their kids and maybe even their husband to bow to their every whim and is upset that you aren’t doing the same.
@Marlowe she sound like mother in law form HELL !! Sorry ur going through that stay strong girl ❤️
I know that with my she doesn’t think she needs boundaries .. she thinks she deserves to have us look after her and help her financially because she raised my husband and that she can do as she pleases with our kids because she raised 3 of her own- I don’t agree with her parenting methods and as much as we’ve helped her financially and everything it’s never enough but too much on me- which she doesn’t care. Idk some people are that way I guess
@Nelya this not even the worse she’s done ! 😂I stopped entertaining her and blocked numbers . I gotta protect my peace
@Nelya EXACTLY 😂😂😂😂😂 . It’s the entitlement!
@Alexis Moore that’s wild though “getting their way “ with a kid that’s not even theirs !!
@Alexis Moore ohhh she messy messy 👀🙃🙃
@Nelya in their eyes everything is “good” when their getting their way !
I did that before my baby came and when she seen we weren’t letting up .. instead of being mad at both of us for setting boundaries she gave me the cold shoulder and excluded me from group chats and stopped talking to me 😂😂😂 ..
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@Phoenix oh no 😭 I’m sure that’s a bit harder girl
this but with my own mother🥲🥲
@Valeria omg good to know I’m not the only one going through this 🥲 I’m wondering now if we were “good” only when I let her step all over me ?
Girl same here! I set boundaries and she got mad. It’s so frustrating and weird lol. I also wonder why they’re like this
Same!! My problem is more with my SIL; there have been a total of three times now that I've spoken up instead of just letting her do whatever she wants, and the most recent time, she threw an absolute fit about how "I'm tired of always having to protect your feelings." Well, get used to it, hun, because it's gonna be your new normal. 💁🏼♀️😂