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I’m more of the mindset that I would rather know. I can protect myself and if he were to bring something back to me I’d at least know to get tested. Chances are if you have a really bad feeling about it, you’re picking up on something body language or something. Women’s intuition is no joke. But it’s legit on you whether you think you can handle what you find or not. But if you can I would get a good therapist that can help you through any of your past trauma or anything you may find out.
I don't think all men cheat but I do think once a cheater always a cheater He's done it before and you forgave him so he believes if he keeps doing it you'll always forgive and nothing bad will happen to him
Ahh, so hate me or not but I’ll admit in most of my past relationships I’ve cheated (I was young, dumb n shouldn’t of settled down early as often as I did) but here we are n I can provide a different experience… 1 of the first guys I ever cheated on I told him, n his response was why tell me all it does is make me feel shit so I can understand why your hesitant to find out… our relationship was a ruined mess after that n that poor guy stuck around for 12 mnths after I cheated… the following times I never let guys know unless I actually wanted to hurt them…but regardless things don’t ever really work out after cheating, or a betrayal of any kind wether u know or not… but it’s up to you on when ur ready to end things n ur in a position to do so… start saving your money now, n just know cheating is never about you and there are always better things out there for you xxx
I was married for 9 years and with him for 3 years before we got married. He cheated on me for all 12 years we were together. He traveled for work and would use dating apps for hook ups where ever he was. I knew about it the entire time but I pretended I didn't because I wanted us to be a family. The weekend before our wedding when I was at my Bachelorette party he was off hooking up with someone. I still married him anyway. It is the biggest mistake I have ever made. I never should have married him. I should have stood up for myself. Don't do what I did. You deserve better
My husband cheated on me so much in the past but I still forgave him once he finally admitted to doing so. Then after that things were difficult at first bc there was absolutely no trust, I felt insecure, and I couldn't let it go for the longest time. Since then our relationship has been so much better. We have each other's passwords to everything and I can pick his phone up and go thru it as many times as I want. When he goes somewhere he tells me, I can check his location on my phone anytime and if I call he answers always. Now I don't even do as much of that anymore and it feels good. If I thought he was cheating I'd definitely investigate it but I have no reason to or even feel like he has been.
@Tiffany how long did it take you to regain trust?
I see both sides but I’m a ftm & I’m scared af to be alone and depression is knocking on my door as we speak. I feel weird energy around him but it’s not in my face like it was the last time. I have a daughter and I want to be better for her but I don’t want to be a single mom right now. I had a traumatic pregnancy and delivery. I need help and support from him. I really don’t want to know right now. I won’t marry him but I don’t think I’m strong enough to handle another heartbreak. Im sick just thinking about all of this. He has a good job and from my understanding many women accept cheating spouse after they hit a certain tax bracket. I want to know but I really don’t want to know the truth
Girl I feel you. It’s not an easy decision especially when kids are involved. It’s really only a decision you can make, and if you don’t feel ready to confront it, then hold off. Reach out if you need someone to talk to.
@Reese I'm not going to lie, 5 long and stressful years. But totally worth it bc our relationship is the best now and we have a toddler and baby on the way that absolutely are so loved by us. He's definitely not the same as he use to be. He use to go out all the time and party and was never working. Now I don't work I'm a sahm and when he comes home from work he spends time with us and doesn't go out partying. He goes to friends occasionally but that's okay with me bc I know his friends and everyone needs a balance of family and friend time!
I totally get it. If you have those thoughts, maybe try talking to him. You could say that you're feeling a bit down and that you need reassurance that things are okay between you both. Are you missing anything in your relationship? Like attention, doing things together as a family or going on dates? If I were you I'd do those things and also focus on your kids and yourself. Do things that you enjoy doing that you don't get to as much. The truth will always come out and if you're not ready to check then you're just not ready. Also think about it this way, will it hurt you more to know? Will you even leave? Healing from infidelity is the worse and so hard to do but you can either leave or work on saving your relationship! Wishing you the best!
Look. Find it. And leave. Not all men cheat. I know it can seem that way, but I have the most recklessly loyal man. You absolutely deserve to have that too. You’re beautiful. I love you. Dump his ass. (If he’s cheating) Ps- a lil tracker on the car never hurt anyone ✨💅🏼
@Tori and life 360 too, me and my fiance have life 360 so we can see where each other is whenever we want to
Investigate 🙏🏽 trust your gut
I understand that "ignorance is bliss" but if he's messing around, he could bring something home that you can't get rid of. I would tell any woman to trust their gut. I wish I would've. If you think something is going on, it probably is. How bad is what he's doing, is the question.