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Leave or stay

Hello I’m just in a hard situation lately. I have been with my daughter’s father for 5 years now. We have had our ups and downs. But lately I just feel like it’s time to leave this relationship. He blames me for everything from him not finding a job to not making enough. Idk what to do anymore I feel so lost. He says that I’m use less. I’m always acting like a victim and crying because I can’t man up. My family leaves in Wyoming and my parents send me money for gas to go visit he get mad because the hates my family. And says it should be nice to go on vacation all the time but I don’t go often sometimes I go 1 once a month. I just got back today because I went for my sister high school graduation. I told him I was gonna leave for a week. Left Sunday and came back today Friday but he says I lied to him and said I would come Thursday but I didn’t I remember clearly telling him I would be back Friday so we could spend Memorial weekend together. Well Thursday afternoon I fell and cut opened my ankle. My mom and brother took me to urgent care to get stitches. I texted him and told him what happens he said that is what I get for lying and not coming back on time. He then texted me these paragraphs at night how I ungrateful I was and I probably cut myself on propuse so I wouldn’t go back. Just got back from Wyoming and the doctors said not to walk much on my foot because it could rip open my stitches. I asked him to do dinner he goes should be nice just sitting down not doing any have an excuse. That’s what happens when you don’t come back in time. I just feel so sad because when he is sick hurt anything I’m always taking care of him making feel better. But he just blames me on being clumsy and falling. I feel so lost lately. He tell our daughter I’m stupid and pathetic. Idk what to do anymore. I feel like I’m losing confidence and hating myself. I have talked to him about how I feel lately but he says I’m over dramatic. This belittling name calling has been going on for 2 yrs now idk what to do anymore.
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Honey his abusing you leave if you marry him it’s only going to get worse.

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@Tiffany ABSOLUTELY!

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Take your daughter to Wyoming and never go back. Document the abuse. Tell people what's going on. If he makes a fuss about it, leave it to the legal system.

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@Elizabeth no! Just because he looks for her doesn’t mean he loves her or will change or treat her better. He’s horrible. She should leave. PERIOD. No turning back.

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@Kelsey the way he treats her in general is just horrible. No one should be with a person who treats them like that. 😔

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That’s narcissistic behavior and abuse. Leave. My ex husband was the same

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I understand how u feel cause am once in that state. U deserve to be happy. Give him a space, leave the house, if he really loves u after some days he will look for u. If he didn't come looking for u or begging u that he is sorry, my dear package yourself and get a job. God will direct a better man your way.

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Leave, no one deserves to be mistreated. hes definitely not going to change if he thinks its okay to treat you this way and you guys have no ties together. you know whats right. you got this girl

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Im so sorry you are going through this! You have to leave, heal yourself and live your life!

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Emotional abuse and parental alienation! Stay with ur parents and leave his nasty ass on his own. He will treat u how u allow him too so foot down and stop it or leave him, not good for your mental health :( xxxxx

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I’m so sorry! No one deserves this, it’s time for you to heal … far away from this man!

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I've been there and leaving him has been the best decision I've made. It was not easy and I didn't had kids. He completely destroyed my self-esteem but with lots of therapy now I'm stronger and much better and now I have a 3 month old. You already know what to do. Just follow your gut and you will survive. Be very careful and reach out for help

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I’m sorry you’re going through this and feel so lost I’ve been there. I definitely feel like you should leave back home with your mom and brother . Maybe next month when you visit but don’t tell him , do it when he’s not home because it sounds like he’ll get really mad since he can’t let go of you leaving for an extra day . That’s no way to live and look forward to it it’ll be a happy healthy fresh start for you and your daughter 💞 stay strong ❤️‍🩹

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That’s verbal and emotional abuse. LEAVE!!! Go live in Wyoming by your family. You will start to heal with loving people around you.

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If you’ve done all you can think of, I think you have your answer. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but the way he treats you when you’re down shows a lot about how he truly feels.

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