Thanks everyone..you’re all right I’m definitely not comfortable with her having her so I think I will try and make it work with taking baby to work and if it becomes too stressful then I’ll have to re think but hopefully it’ll be ok (I’m a dog walker)
@Carlene Langley This is something I’m worried about!!
@Amy I know I’m so torn. Work would be much less stressful without baby and I would get done much quicker
I wouldn’t let her babysit when she doesn’t even text you back . What if your at work and hear no updates for a whole shift ? I’d lose my mind.
In my opinion she should be doing all she can to accommodate you and baby right now. If she’s not showing that she’s willing to do so, then she hasn’t earned the right to your trust.
If you already feel uncomfortable thinking about it, then just imagine how stressed you would be actually leaving your LO with your MIL. If you don't absolutely have to, I see no reason to let MIL watch. It's awful that she was so unsupportive of your birth plan - she should have no say in that. And then she had the audacity to tell you she was taking your 3w old baby when you invited her over... No. You've listed many valid reasons to feel uncomfortable. Stick with your gut.
Okay I can feel ur struggle with mil reading this … I don’t think ur being overly sensitive , if I was you with all of this I wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving my child with her to babysit . Plus she don’t even try to see ur baby and doesn’t even know her that well like you say so that adds to it , I wouldn’t keep texting her either tbh if she’s ignoring ur messages over n over like that
She will continue to cross boundaries if you let it slide with Little things