…to plan. This is a really hard thing to reverse and I know because I still do it (blame myself). But it is quite normal. Accepting that things happen outside of our control is very difficult. Is there anything you can do to make yourself feel a bit more in control of things? For me it’s researching things, as then at least I can’t blame myself for not being informed enough. I’m also a planner! So in your situation I would plan what I’d do if the scan was normal vs what to do if it wasn’t, and the same with the genetic testing. I’d also really recommend seeing your midwife or GP if you’re struggling with all this and see if there is a service nearby that offers support to parents in your position. Once again I’m so sorry about your situation and I hope you get some more positive news soon. Please message me if you just need someone to listen 🤗
I suggest if you can get an opinion from london fetal clinic. They are the best in complex cases. Good luck
You already have a great reply above but I also just wanted to offer my support as you’re clearly being faced with a tough pregnancy and it’s easy to think you’re the only one and that everyone around you is having a very straightforward experience. I’m really sorry about the issues your little one is facing and I just really hope that the next scan shows some good growth. Have they said how they’ll do the chromosome testing and will they do that at the same appointment? I’m sorry that I’ve not directly had your experience but the one thing I can fully relate to is blaming yourself and your body and I still do this now. I lost our son (first baby) at 26 weeks and although no reason was found I was told it was most likely due to my placenta not working properly. I’ve since had my daughter with no problems at all but mentally her pregnancy was a struggle. I’ve been though lots of therapy and one thing I’ve learned is that we often want to blame ourselves when things don’t go according…