Is my Marriage is dead

So this might be a bit long-winded but here we go. before my son was convinced my husband never gave much or any physical affection, he never initiated intimacy and eventually we convinced with the use of mosiebaby ( a syringe ) when my son was born it was so hard my husband didn't help at all He picked us up from the hospital after 2 days being there and went to bed leaving me to care for him, it took me 6 months of begging and screaming for him to take care of him so I could rest. I ask him all the time to just clean up after himself which he always says I'm nagging or being a bitch. he has been away for work for the past 3 days, I made sure his bed is clean and his blankets are washed and warm, I picked up a hot sandwich and juice and picked him up with our son at the train station, when we get home I put dinner on and asked him to just make sure it's cooked right before he serves it, I had to walk the dog. when I get in the food is cold the broccoli for our 1-year-old is so hard he can't chew it and he is feeding it to our son. he spills his coke and leaves the cloth on the floor his half-empty cans all over the house and again I'm a nag. I'm so tired of picking up after a grown man then he screams why is the house always a mess. he gets clothes for our son to dress him and it's all too small then freaks out why isn't his clothes sorted, I am so busy running after and cleaning after him that I don't have time to go through the clothes, when my son naps during the day I do dishes, laundry and clean the kitchen and living room or prepare dinner for the night. my husband will say he is taking our son with to drop the dog off at Creche and 20min later say he isn't so I am continually having to hop and jump around changing what I had planned even if it's for 30min of time to get something done. Yet again I'm being a bitch for pointing out that he never sticks to what he says, after all it affect me too and this goes for so much I feel like I am forever tiptoeing on eggshells because I have to change what I need to do for everyone, for my son that's ok I signed up for that but I didn't sign up for taking care of a grown man who can't clean a toilet after himself. I blew up at him this morning for saying he was taking our son for the drive and then changing his mind, and for the fact I did so much for him yesterday to make sure he had food and warm clean bed, yet he treats me like crap and then gets pissed off because I don't want to hold his hand or touch him. it's been constant fights and I feel like this is never going to change so I think this relationship is dead.