I completely get where your coming from however… you can’t control what he does he’s a grown man! You can express your dislikes but telling someone they not going out is controlling and won’t do your relationship any good? The fact he’s saying he feels trapped and depressed is a pretty good indicator he’s not happy? Clearly your not happy with what he does either and you have your reasons and valid ones at that! The fact you say it should be done together that’s wrong he needs his friends and you need yours to maintain a healthy relationship. You say a sitter isn’t affordable however your partner takes drugs which are not cheap so surely money can be found for a sitter even for a cheap night out?! You both need to find a balance that works for both of you? Also take it in turns watching the little one so you can have your time too! If something doesn’t give the relationship will xx communication is key xx
You can still do things separately as a couple, but being out till 6am is a big no! I would not be ok with that at all!! I would also not be ok with him doing ecstasy and would be very concerned being out till six am in drugs like that and if he’s being faithful
Firstly, you can’t do clubbing as a couple as you’ve both said you aren’t comfortable with someone you know baby sitting. Secondly, you need boundaries both of you, so 1 month he has a night off doing something he wants and and then the month after you have a night off doing what you want. Or more frequently if you’re happy with that. Just because you have a child doesn’t mean your full life has to change. I do see where you are coming from and how it makes you feel, I don’t have any advice for that as if that’s all his friends are doing and if he used to do that prior to baby
P.s No your are not the A**hole lol xx