Am i to young?

Baby girl you are too young. I know it’s hard to understand right now but you’ve got so much growing and learning to do as a person. It wouldn’t be fair on you or a baby to go through with it right now.

If you and your boyfriend are fully committed to this baby I don’t think you should worry about your mum. She might come around. You’ve got to think about you’re new little family now if that’s what you want 😊

You are really young and it's going to be so hard. Listen to your family and friends...

The support of your family is so important. Try speaking to your mum and seeing what she thinks you should do an why. If you put yourself in their shoes, you are still her baby and she will be worried for you and what the future holds. I had my first child when I was 26 and I felt young then. Just think really carefully about it x

This is a decision for you and you only, no one should convince you either way.

Look, life is going to be really hard to have a baby before you've finished school or had your first job. There are so many things to learn about life as an adult that would be so much easier (but still hard) without a baby. There is no shame in choosing yourself. If you do keep the pregnancy then it might be something that your mum will take some time to process. It's pretty normal for people to have unexpected reactions to big news and it will most likely settle down if you try to stay positive and don't get caught up in the drama. Just let her know that you really want her to be in the baby's life.

@Ruth I disagree, at that age you need support from family financially. It can be very lonely when you have support from people so not having the support can be very hard.

Are people really telling you to not keep the baby despite you wanting to keep?? If you have the help you want and think you can do it then do what YOU want, it's your life and your baby I'm here for you if you have questions or anything

I think if you’re fully committed to being a mum then no one can tell you not to do it. You will need a lot of support though, so try and talk to your mum or your boyfriends family about it properly, understand that people might not be thrilled for you (I’m 20 and I’ve had mixed opinions even though I’m married) but if they really care, which I’m sure they do, then they won’t want you to go through this alone. Make sure you really think about your school situation too, it’s just as important to make sure you finish your education now. Your mum might be worried, you are young but no one can tell you what to do with your own pregnancy and body, just have a good long think about what is best for you and for your baby, no one else’s opinion matters ❤️

This won’t be easy for you or your boyfriend. You might have been physically able to have a child but mentally you are not ready. I’m twice your age and feel anxious about what is to come. There is no point denying this. Your mum knows full well that she will burden much of the responsibility. Youth is an important thing and one day you will look back and wish you was able to relive these years again, however I suspect once your child comes you will also have no regrets. Go easy on your mum and yourself right now - there are some hard roads ahead. 💜

I’d also like to add just because you’re young doesn’t mean you immediately shouldn’t do it and for people to jump and say not to go through with it. you should also understand that there are options for you other than going through with pregnancy and that being young is likely going to make things harder but it all depends on the person and their situation. I think at any point in life it’s a very big decision you need to think about x

Far too young, no one will judge you for waiting a few more years to start a family when you have finished your education, maybe established a career and settled into your own accommodation. I got pregnant at 18 and had a supportive long term boyfriend but I had ambitions of going to uni, getting a well paid job and having my own place, I was able to do all those things because I terminated the pregnancy at 12 weeks and never looked back or had any regrets. I’m 29 now and everything in my life is how I imagined it would be to welcome a baby into the world.

@Bekkah wait so what are you suggesting? She kill her baby? And you think that’s going to be easier for a 15 year old to go through with?!

Via!! Yes you are very young!! And you have a lot of growing up to do. However!!!! You do what’s right for you, right now your mum is probably very hurt, worried, angry, confused etc but she will come round she just needs time x your going to need her more than ever and it won’t be easy!! You will loose many friends, a lot of people won’t take you seriously, you will look frowned upon and you really are going to have to put a brave face on! Having a baby is no joke! You won’t ever have the freedom you have right now, something as simple as taking a quick shower will become a thing of the past but you will get there x give your mum time! It’s too late for apologies and she knows that but give her time she will come round eventually xx

Message me if ever your in doubt need advice or just a chat x

When is the right time though everyone’s quick to comment but it’s up to you and what you want I’m 20 years older and my god I’m still worrying. I had an abortion at 17 mostly because of the reasons everyone are saying but every day I have wondered if I did the right thing so much so when I miscarried I felt it was karma and I’m now only just having my first child at 35. You just need to talk to everyone around. Do what you feel is right x

@Bekkah try telling that to someone who can’t have kids!!

@Bekkah I'm in school still and I have a baby and things are going great for me and I'm now about to graduate in a few weeks sooo 🤷

@Bekkah yeah she’s still a child herself and what! If she had a good support system in place she will be fine! By no means will it be easy! But how you can basically tell someone to have an abortion and kill the “cluster of cells” as you call it is beyond me!!! I have a 14 year old and god forbid she fell pregnant I would always be there to support her!! Yea I wouldn’t be happy but it is what it is!!

Of course I get the whole she’s still so young not financially stable but trust me there’s plenty of 30 year olds claiming all the benefits not financially stable so that isn’t a valid excuse. I also get the fact that abortion is traumatic and yes she won’t have someone depending on her but she will also have to live with it mentally for the rest of her life. It’s not the nicest experience unless you are 100% certain it’s what you want.

@Bekkah I also think it’s wrong you telling her she should get rid of it. There’s no right or wrong, I’m pro choice and the choice to keep is still a choice. She just really needs to think about that choice before committing. There’s a lot for her to consider

It will be so hard for you at this age with zero support. But we don’t know you or your family. Do you think your mum will help once she has got her head round it? Will your bfs parents help? You can’t work yet and will need a lot of support. If you have that and believe you can do it then that’s up to you 🤍

You’ll hear different opinion on here. Some people look at early pregnancy as a little human, others as cells very slowly turning into a human. Look up different weeks of pregnancy and see the ‘baby’ is a size of sesame seed 2 months into the start of pregnancy. I personally would have an abortion if in 1st trimester if I were you. You’ve got a whole life to have a baby. Education/job, life experience and family/financial stability is extremely important and crucial to raise a child. But do what your heart and mind tells you, you’re responsible for your own decision x

@Bekkah I had 2 miscarriages 1 at 14 weeks! The fact you know what a loss feels like why would you want someone else to know that feeling?! Her mum Is hurt and worried she needs time to process it all?! Most parents react this way? I mean wouldn’t you? However eventually they come round?! Well majority do! To say someone is making a mistake is one thing but to tell someone to have an abortion and not go through with it is another thing entirely! Some 15 year olds make better parents than most adults! She already stated she wants to keep her baby, if you can’t support that then it’s kinder to not comment at all!

@Bekkah my dad my nan an grandad and my boyfriends family

@Via it's great that you have them

@Bekkah it is hard but she has support If I lost my baby, it would've been harder on me than being a mom in my opinion

@Bekkah during pregnancy I was more scared of losing my baby than I was becoming a mom I can't imagine the pain of losing a baby but I'd rather be a mom than lose my kid

@Bekkah don't go and tell someone to get an abortion because you don't believe that they can be a mom You can tell her the options she has but she has the rights to choose and she chose to keep the baby so there's no need to try and force her into an abortion that's just messed up

@Bekkah no it’s not a competition I was simply stating that I’ve been there I know what tf it feels like!! Yeah becoming a child parent will be harder with but the right support she could possible do better than you or I!!! Your in no position to tell anyone to abort!! Besides she never arsed if she thought she should have an abortion or not!! And I’m not advising a child to have a child! She’s already pregnant! 8 weeks roughly by what her profile says so that little heartbeat will be flickering away!!

God makes no mistakes even if we can’t understand them , keep your baby (it seems you want to) . Once that beautiful baby is born the people who love you will love and support that baby as well. Praying for peace and comfort .❤️

I think everyone needs to take a step back, and stop with the judgemental comments. Yes she is a young girl, but she is also a human with feelings and emotions, she stated in her post she has decided to keep it so the ‘you’re throwing your life away comments’ are just so unnecessary!! Peanut app is meant for support, not judgement. @Via firstly, congratulations to you and your supportive boyfriend. Pregnancy and having a baby is challenging at whatever age you are. There is never a right age, everyone will always want to be ‘better off’ whether that’s financials, house, job etc’ there is never a right age. By the sounds of it, your mum is currently in shock, her baby is now having a baby. I’m sure she will come round to it but try stay strong within yourself, if this is something you and your boyfriend want then its nothing by joy and excitement for this next chapter for you both! You’ve got this!

I had mine at 16, message if you’d like x

I was 16 when I had my daughter and 17 when I had my son, my whole family was shocked. But it’s my body and my choices. Do what ever you want to do!!!! But remember at a young age your still be living with parents or guardians. As your not old enough for a tenancy, I found this hard as my mum was taking over a lot but also I had so much help!! Aslong as you’ve got your boyfriends support your be okay. If you need anyone to talk to me messages are open, good luck and congratulations xxx

If you and your bf want this baby and people are telling you to get rid of it and you do it, you will always regret it, you may be 15 but the fact you have searched on here and reached out for advice is massively grown up in my eyes, I think you will be a great mum and if you have a supportive bf even better your little family, do what's right for you ❤️ good luck xxx

Some people here are giving advice as if your asking if you should start a family at 15 (and dismissive about the fact you are pregnant) Both having a child and choosing to terminate are not easy options but you do need support. Can you get some counselling from your gp to help you weigh things out or have a discussion with your mum. Don’t let anyone tell you what you should do, only you will know what’s right. Yes ur mum is upset and she’s entitled to be but hopefully she will be supportive of any decisions you choose to make. Having a baby is hard but i don’t think you will regret ur child, we adapt to what life throws at us. You will be fine

15 is so so young, however, you’re pregnant and you want this baby which is completely your choice as it’s your body. I would talk to your mum and speak to her about your pregnancy and both of your worries. You will need so much support as having a baby is super hard no matter what age you are. Just understand she may be upset and disappointed that you are having a baby and you need to understand that everything will change. I’m sending you so much love and hope you get the support you need xxx

Your body your choice. Please research extensively so you know what you're getting yourself into and you're as best prepared as can be before deciding on what you want to do. No medicine for regret so best to make an informed decision. Wishing you all the best xx

I waited till I was 35 to have mine and I wish I had him earlier but this is way too early HOWEVER... It happened and I would hope your parents understand and support that decision along with the father and his family 🙏 Noone is really ever ready but you aren't even able to work to support this child for another year. I'm so sorry you are in this situation and will definitely be praying for you and your child 😘 We always surprise ourselves with just how much we can actually handle when faced with a difficult situation and I believe that with some support you can absolutely do it and totally support your decision. I do worry about how difficult it will be and hope it doesn't affect your mental health in a negative way because that is the main reason I would never tell you to get rid of him/her. I made that mistake at a young age as well and it haunts me still!!

I was a teen mother at 15 (I'm currently only 22) I can tell you first hand it's ALWAYS YOURE CHOICE WHAT YOU WANT TO DO! I kept my baby and I have a lovely 7 year old now , but I also understand the ladder. I am sure you're mom is probably just having the panic of her life, my mom threw up when I told her LOL I felt so bad and we had a very strained relationship but in that time I grew alot of independence. I needed that independence preparing to become a mother! Me and my mom get along just fine now but it's a different dynamic. Give her some time to adjust to the news , hopefully she will come around! (Also if you ever need a mom friend who has been through it too please message me anytime!)

@Via Hi love, I wanted to share with you about my story. However, always remember it’s your life and your choice that you’ll have to live with for the rest of your life. Therefore, don’t let ANYONE, not even your family/friends or this Peanut app chose for you. I was pregnant at a young age with my first child and they made me get rid of it. I am still saddened from that today. I got pregnant again at a young age and I chose to ignore them and keep it and he’s now 17 years old. I was mentally and emotionally broken from what happened to me with the first baby, that I wasn’t going to allow anyone to make me make a decision I didn’t want to. They even wanted me to give my son up for adoption while he was still in my belly. They made it hard on me saying if I kept it, no one would help me. My favorite sister Val came in my life and saved the day with tons of diapers and wipes. I had other strangers come in and help with clothes. I continued to go to school and work but it was a struggle.

Also don't listen to anyone else's opinion girl because the only opinion that matters is yours , so many people were mad at me for becoming such a young mother but I could not imagine my life without my child

Hey, don’t do anything you don’t want to do! I was pregnant at 18 I know it’s slightly older so I a little different. Haven’t a baby is not easy it shocked me even though I was prepared and wanted a baby. I also have problems with my mother. If you need any advice you can always message me xx

For every young mum who made the decision to keep their pregnancy, and it’s been the best thing they’ve done and they wouldn’t go back on it… there will be just as many who decided not to go ahead and it’s been the best thing they’ve done and they wouldn’t go back on it… We don’t know you, your specific circumstances, relationships etc. Just because someone else made a choice at a young age and it worked out for them, whichever way they chose, it doesn’t mean it will go the same way for you. Only you should make the decision, because you have all the information. This won’t change anyone’s life like it’s going to change yours, it’s you that has to live the rest of your life, facing up to whatever decision you make. I do know for me, a child at 15 would not have allowed me to live the life I wanted. I have so much to be grateful for now that likely wouldn’t have been possible if I had been a young parent. I also saw with my sister, who was pregnant at 16, some mums WONT come around.

@Haisey🧿 Bekkah was basically saying how this girl needs to have an abortion because she's 15, she's completely ignoring that fact that this girl has already said she wants to keep baby and stuff like that

Keep your baby!! Its rare to find someone who is supportive of major decisions and for your boyfriend to be more supportive than your mom then...that says a lot. You can always give the babe up for adoption if you decide that you "just cant" (Postpartum depression is real!) . Maybe try to open up to your mom about how you feel... I know that doesn't always work but maybe she will come around. I'm going to be praying for y'all. With prayers, and love ~N💜~

I'd like to baby Bunny's cute

That was my son. He said "I like you baby and he or she is probably going to be cute" ...he's going to be 7

@Via No, you are not too young. Would I recommend planning a family at 15? No. But you have one now and it sounds like you are capable of stepping up to be the mom you were meant to be! Your mom may be in shock, give her space but also try to listen when she’s ready to talk. I’m sure this is also surprising and scary for you, do you have any local groups that could offer support? Or online groups for teen moms? Maybe look for a mom mentor? An experienced mom virtually or in person who can answer questions, help find resources, etc. You need a good plan in place. Who is your support system, will you finish high school or maybe switch to online learning, how will you and the baby be supported financially, will your boyfriend work and support you or will you work, your mom? Take classes for childcare, birth and feeding! If you can’t afford classes, please reach out to me as I am an LC and 4x mom and would be happy to go over these things with you.

Take care of yourself and breathe, it will be okay and work out! Babies/children are a lot of work but also so worth it!