Sleep training/Baby not wanting to be held.

It just breaks my heart and I'm constantly breaking down into tears today. I try to hold him in my arms and rock him to sleep but he just squirms and kicks and throws a tantrum trying to break free. I'm currently trying to sleep training him (transitioning from rocker seat to crib) and I'm not seeing any light at the end of the tunnel which also breaks my heart. I feel like a failure and like I don't even deserve my baby boy or like he doesn't want anything to do with me when it comes to this. Is this normal behavior from an 11 month old? I'm just wondering why he doesn't want to be held or rocked in my arms? 😪😔😓😭😭
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Sometimes, I feel like he doesn't know what he wants. I feel like I'm confused because I don't know either. I feel like someone could do it better, and it just breaks my heart, honestly. Like, I'm supposed to be his mom and know what he wants best.

Hi, if I were you, I would ask someone from your family or friends for help with a child and focus on my own well being for a while as you seem to be very critical and negative towards yourself. Happy mummy equals happy child. As far as I know those who I know with the toddlers have experienced similar behaviour, even worse tantrums, they found the solution by trial and errors as every child is different. One of my friends with 10 month old baby just let him get tired so much that he fell asleep on his own but later on he got the 'normal' sleep routine.

Don’t feel bad. My 5 month old won’t be held or rocked like a baby anymore 😢. She’ll let me put her over my shoulder and pat her on the back at night, and hold her for a bit after a nap but that’s about it! Of course they’ll always want you when they need you - after jabs, feeling unwell etc ❤️ Mine just wants to be on the floor and rolling, or bounced around and sung to. It’s developmental I’m sure and all babies are different. He still loves you with all his heart! Xxx

My LO has been fighting to go to sleep when she turned 6 months and she's 8 months, I have to hum to her as I rock her and sometimes let her have a bottle or breastfeed to get her to sleep. Sometimes nothing works and I have to let her cry herself to sleep but it doesn't make you a bad mom, it just takes time to find somethings to work

My little one is 14 months and exactly the same as Lauren describes. He loves his personal space & independence. Honestly, even if other people are in his face too much he gets cranky. I think it’s normal behaviour & not anything you’re doing wrong ❤️ Something that helps me sometimes is offering 2 options (e.g. sandwich in one hand, yogurt in the other) and letting him choose. I think babies/toddlers crave control too

Wow mama slow down, your doing great, your baby loves you and needs you, sometimes babies just don't want to be held it's not that they don't want you, it's that they like space too, also they can feel when mommy is tense and it makes them tense, times like that instead of holding and crowding each other, set him in a stroller and go on an adventure y'all need time away from the house or even put him in a play pen with a light sheet over the top of it for shade and go outside let him see you enjoying something and let him get fresh air, you are not a bad mom for having a child who is empathetic to his mom's needs too you both need to go out and do something together that for now dosnt involve too much holding, just keep talking to him while you do it, eventually once you start to feel lighter he should be more open to all the hugs and kisses. Your not a bad mommy that baby loves you.

@Beth oh same! when people are a bit too cuddly and waving toys in her face she’s like - no thank you! Sometimes she’s cranky and I think she wants something but I set her down on her own and she’s happy as anything. Babies are crazy 😂

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