Thoughts on putting baby up for adoption

It’s going to be hard but people manage. Decide solely on whether or not YOU want this child, not based off of your relationship status because that can always change. I would love to adopt, whether I’m single or married. What do you want for yourself?

Fight for your babies

I wish someone would choose us to adopt their baby. We have been struggling to conceive and just found out our first fet with donor embryos failed. Praying God gives us a baby to parent.

I agree with Nayeli, this decision should be completely separate from your relationship status. If you give this baby up for the sake of your relationship, you might end up seriously regretting it if you guys break up anyway. Put the baby 1st and if you have to leave your partner, there are programs available for struggling low income moms.

I personally wouldn't deny my child their sibling over relationship issues and etc. If you can't work it out with your SO there are resources for you out there, if family is willing to help, let them. Adoption doesn't garrantee a better life, just a different one. While there are people who ended up in better homes, a lot of these kids end up in abusive foster homes which leads to emotional, mental and sexual abuse. My middle brother was one of them. He ended up resenting my mother for keeping me and surrendering him and my oldest brother. My grandmother fought to get them out but it was too late. My oldest is OK but hated my mother, didn't even call her on her death bed. But our middle brother lived a life of drugs, alcohol, and sex addiction, abandoned his son and disappeared. No one knows if hes dead or alive. Adoption is expensive, inflation hit us hard, only certain people have the luxury of adopting, your child could be in the system till they're 18. Brother said he'd rather been aborted than abandoned

@TeVana it breaks my heart to read it!😭

I have twin 2.5 yr olds and a 9.5 mos old (19mos apart) not quite irish but it's a lot under 3...and at first it was 3 under 2. While I don't have the relationship issues working against me (but I have been there with my oldest) it's not impossible, not easy but not impossible. If u LOVE this baby and if it weren't for the relationship issues u would for sure keep the baby then give it some time before u jump to adoption...only u know what's best but take ur time too...

I was adopted but at the age of 10. I honestly WISH my brother and I were put up for adoption when we were younger. It's definitely easier for the baby to be with a family who can care and love them from the beginning ( less emotional damage)

@TeVana if you put the baby in foster care yes the child is more likely to be in worse situations. But if you do adoption, that baby is going to a family who wants them. And yes while adoption is expensive, the families who WANT to adopt have the money/ saved up. I'm sorry about your brother but being adopted is so much better than living in a situation where the mom can't take care of you.

@Bella I'm not here to compare opinions or experiences I'm just answering the OP. I'm aware of the benefits of adoption which I had already mentioned in the post. You were one of the lucky ones who got a loving family, good for you. You also have a higher chance of being adopted if you're not a minority. A lot of those kids don't get adopted and end up in trafficking. Foster care at least allows mother and sibling to be in contact until the situation gets better. A situation we don't have much context on. The system itself is awful. Especially if you're a minority. We were homeless but we got through it and I became successful, success is up to you not your family, you may or may not have a head start is all. I wouldn't have wanted to be adopted. The stress and insecurities that come with that would have been too much. I also love my family. But ty for your words

As an adoptee I completely agree with @TeVana