Relationship coming to an end

Hi group, I’m just looking for some advice. Me and my partner have been together coming up 2 years. Things were great before I moved in with him then things went downhill, they picked up when I found out I was pregnant.. during my pregnancy things started to slip again and I noticed I was still doing everything, I was going to appointments alone and had a hospital stay during my pregnancy and rather then him coming to bring me anything he asked if I wanted our friend to bring me stuff to the hospital.
Everything got sorted and then I ended up having our daughter prematurely which put a massive strain on our relationship.
We got her home, things were great for a couple of days and then he just stopped.. stopped helping at night time, stopped helping out during the day.. so not only was I recovering from a c section I was still trying to do everything around the house as well as take care of our daughter and his son. When I asked him to support me more, even if it’s a night time just so I can get an hours sleep I get told “well I used to hear the two others (he has two from a previous relationship) I just don’t hear her to get up”
I’ve stuck through this all because I don’t want him or my daughter to miss out on time, but ultimately I’m so emotionally and mentally drained. I no longer feel like myself.. we’ve spoken about if we split and I’ve told him I don’t want him having her overnight until she’s at least 2, especially as he doesn’t wake up with her and just leaves her screaming.. but he made me feel so guilty for even saying anything I don’t know what’s right and what’s wrong. 😢

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Is my husband thick or an *rse

I have to rant 😭
We have been together for years but I feel like since we had a baby things have taken a really awful turn, or maybe it was always like this but now having a baby has highlighted things. Is it just me that sees it?
I’ll try and bullet point or it will be a essay
-I’m expected to do all the night wakes even though I also work (granted I only work 3days but they are long days and need some mental clarity for my job)
- If I say I would like a lay in it’s “wow you only work 3 days” “you lay in everyday your not at work” Yes I do try and lay in if little one is laying in (it’s usually because she’s been up most the night)
- he walked out on mutiple jobs when she was born “because it wasn’t his dream job/wasn’t happy” which ment I had to go back to work when she was really little and put a massive financial strain on us the last year, draining all my savings I saved for maternity leave
- He organises nights out/meals out with friends and expects me to stay home or go and be taxi, He’s even asked me to pick him up saying just put her in the car and pick me up in middle of the night, most the time now he suddenly tries to stay over at friends houses without even mentioning it before hand meaning me being left all night to have baby
Yet if I even go out for couple hours I constantly get asked when I’m back how long I will be even though I always leave a clear plan of what’s happening and when I’ll be home
- he can “have a night out and stay out all night as I go Zumba for an hour every week “😅
- If he’s “looking after her” while I’m doing chores or cooking he just puts the tv on and doesn’t watch her he’s either playing on his phone or games and now she’s walking/crawling I’m constantly shouting saying can you actually watch her, and I have said multiple times tv is a last resort for us as I want to encourage independent play or playing with us
- he makes horrible little comments like imagine doing that as a single parent or I feel like your going to divorce me which makes me think he knows he’s being terrible?
- He’ll try to put off feeding her dinner because he “doesn’t want to clean her up or the mess”
- Doesn’t do bed time as playing his games or watching tv and if I just ask he gets super pissed and just says give her your boob (she was breast fed but now I only breast feed in the night to keep nights easier)
- I also said about working extra Saturdays as these are my busiest work days (hairdresser) as currently just do every other and he flat out said “no because then I’ll have to have her every Saturday” “what’s our family time” yet we spend most Saturdays with his friends anyways or I’m home with the baby because he’s with his friends

I just feel like he isn’t interested in her or me basically and hes just being really lazy with parenting, I’m so mentally drained from explaining how to do basic stuff and doing everything it’s now starting to take its toll on me as a parent.
I try to stop doing everything but it always comes back on me because it just doesn’t get done even when I say can you do this for me and I then have to do it because it needs doing or I’m fed up of asking thousand times
Rant over 😭

Am I just complaining?

am i just complaining or is this actually unfair?

my partner works 9–6 monday to friday
and i stay home with the baby all day

i don’t mind doing chores during the week, makes sense to me

but when he comes home, gets on the game, and then goes to sleep
and on weekends i’m still the one doing everything

like… when do i get a break?

i’m not saying he doesn’t work hard
but taking care of a baby all day isn’t easy either

so am i just complaining… or is this actually not balanced?

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Husband with PPD

Hey ladies, has anyone here had the experience of their husband or partner having PPD? How do you handle it?

My husband is gone for work 48-72 hours at a time and then comes home often withdraws from the family. He was pretty depressed after I gave birth as well. Perfect storm of he had major surgery 6 weeks prior and was barely off crutches and so felt physically useless then wasn’t comfortable handling the baby so felt even more useless. at the time I tried to give him a lot of grace for it because it was all new.

Now our daughter is now 10 months and my husband is mostly recovered and back to work but still having these depression episodes. Like today he came home and was excited to see us but spent like an hour with us then went to bed and hasn’t gotten out of bed since. So I’m stuck with caring for our wild child, cooking dinner (that he doesn’t even eat), doing laundry, getting the pets fed etc and just like feeling burnt out that it’s constantly all on me.

Am I being a brat? What can I do to get out of this funk? He’s already seeing a therapist which helps sometimes but then he falls back into this withdrawal mode.

Can i clock out?

Is this fair?

Anyone else not enjoying motherhood?

It’s past 1am in the morning and I’ve been crying all night. My husband is getting some sleep as he’s the sole provider in this home. I’m alone, with the baby who I’ve managed to put to sleep( for now) My baby has severe reflux and has issues. He constantly has breast milk and formula oozing out of his nose. I already have severe anxiety and now I find myself watching him all night so he doesn’t choke on his sleep. I haven’t slept in almost 2 months since I had him. I was recently diagnosed with stress incontinence. I pee on myself when I laugh, sneeze, cough, basically anything. My newborn also has eczema and other skin issues. I cry all the time because I miss the peaceful and happy person I was. I look crazy! Taking a bath is a privilege. Is anyone else feeling like they’re being punished? This doesn’t feel like fun. I love my baby but I dread the night time and money hours during the day until my husband is back from work. Am I a bad mom?