Social services

Grandparents rights isn’t a think in the uk x

@Kiera I keep telling her this

@Tiffany nope it was when we was out she said it so don’t have any actual proof of her saying it. When the police came I was literally sobbing saying I don’t know why my mums done this and everything and even the police was saying to me I should press charges against my sister but I was like no I couldn’t do that to my own family even tho they’ve just done this to me xxx

@Tiffany I’m just scared because I was drunk and they might look at it another way but i wouldn’t of had a drink if the baby wasn’t with my mum… just hope my mum doesn’t try turn it all on me in hope she’ll get some authority of my baby As I feel that’s what she wanted all along xxx

Just keep calm, I know it’s hard because it’s social services. Tell them your side of the story. I know it’s your sister but I would honestly look into pressing charges as she attacked you with your child in your arms. Plus it may possibly help with social services especially if she lives in your mums home, it would be unsafe for her to have contact with you or your child

I’ve told them eveything and been honest. I didn’t have the baby when she done this but also My sister doesn’t even live at my mums because of this reason and because she always brings violence to my mums house so my mum got her moved a year ago but last 2 weeks she’s been staying but I deffo told social services this is the reason I cannot go back there and this is why I wasn’t leaving my child there when my mum kicked me out the other day. I’m just hoping they can look at my statement and the police and see it wasn’t my fault atall xx

That’s all you can do, it’s highly unlikely that they’d take your child away especially to a house that’s clearly unstable atm and no doubt the police would’ve told them the situation and their thoughts about it all. You did the right thing and moved away from the situation. You can’t be penalised for having one night out and place your baby with someone who you thought was safe xx

Just because your a mum doesn’t mean your not entitled to a drink every now and then you done the right thing by having another adult you felt was responsible to watch the baby! Even tho the evening ended shit for you that’s on them not you and hopefully social see that! Not that it’s any of my business but is there a reason you live with your mum? Only asking as is leaving that house something you’d be able to do cope with and be happy with? If soo maybe see if social can assist you in leaving like getting in touch with your local council and housing on your behalf! Chin up stay calm do not getting shitty with the police of social it’s not easy as sometimes people act shitty but it’s just through stress! Hope everything works out well for you! X

@Nicola yeah that’s exactly it! X

It’s all going to work out in the end, I know it doesn’t feel like it at the moment but don’t react, that’s probably what your mum and sister want. Stay strong lovely xx

Social worker on an assessment team here so hopefully can assist somewhat - Grandparents rights are not a thing whatsoever so that isn’t something she can do. She can request a family arrangement order however, this would only be a thing if you went all the way to a child protection conference and there is absolutely no way based on what you have said that this would be the case. She has zero rights at all so please don’t worry about that! Regarding assessment - they will tell you they are coming, pop in and chat to you, ask you about the incident, how things are normally, how often you drink etc, they will request to see your child’s bedroom because they have to in most cases (just so you know and that doesn’t worry you). The likelihood is they will go away talk to health visitors/schools etc and get their opinion on your daughter health and your interaction with her. Baer purely on the event you’ve stated, so long as you are honest then there will be a case closure as there is no

@Laura yeah that’s right my mum always begs me to let her look after her and for me to go out but I always so no and the one time I actually say yes this all happens it’s ridiculous! My mum asked me to move in when I was pregnant so I didn’t have the stress of bills in my own place so I took her word but wish I never now. Yeah I’d be completely fine moving out on my own. I’ve spoke to the housing and waiting for them to assist me on what to do next so hopefully I get a update on a few days🤞🏼xxx

Evidence of abuse or harm to your child. If they do out early help in, it is likely that they will just help you complete and implement a safety plan which would be along the lines of: Not allowing your sister to be present when your mum sees the child or not allowing either to see the child if they are worried And that you phone the police if they turn up at your property. I can’t see how they could have any other input - obviously that’s based purely on what you’ve said here having not seen your home or in-depth conversation etc but though it might give you a heads up as to what might happen. Feel free to ask ahh questions etc and I’ll reassure you where I can They can also put a supporting statement into housing to get you somewhere new to live so ask about them doing that too!

@Tiffany yeah that’s the thing I hope they see that I didn’t want to leave my baby in a unsafe place. I’m not sure I’m waiting for the social services to call me back once they’ve spoke to her and assessed the next step. The lady on the phone said she was calling about a domestic that happened between my family at mums address so I’m hoping they will look at it like that as it was literally a argument between me my mum and sister the baby wasn’t involved untill my sister tried to punch me in which I then asked for them to give me my baby so I can leave and get her out of the mad house so I’ll just have to wait and see! I will update here as soon as I hear anything xxx

@Nicola thankyou so much I really appreciate it🤍🤍 I’ve not had communication with them and am not going to either🤞🏼 xxx

@Claire ah thankyou so much that’s so much more reassuring!! My sister defiantly won’t be coming near me or my child and as for my mum she won’t be seeing the both of us for a long time and if she does she will never be left alone with her again. My mum has kicked me out and wrote a statement to the housing that me or the baby cannot live in her house anymore so maybe they are doing this to get me support for accommodation for me and the baby🤞🏼xxx

All you can do is prove to social services there is no concerns around you and they will soon back off x

If the police get called out to any home where there's a child it's protocol it gets referred to social services, especially if there's been incidents in the past, if not I wouldn't worry every police call out involving children gets passed on

Little update they called me back and said they’re dropping the case they can see that it was a family argument and they’re not concerned about my parenting or welfare of my baby as they can see I didn’t do anything wrong and have removed myself from where the issue is so they said there’s no reason for them to keep my case open. They said if an issue like this happened again around the baby then they would take further action.

Brilliant news and I’m so pleased for you! Go enjoy life with your little one and enjoy all the snuggles and love 🥰

Brilliant! You can breathe now xx

I’m not downplaying your situation at all, if anything I hope this might reassure you. Grandparents rights is not a thing in the uk. Secondly, it takes ALOT in my experience for children to be taken away from their mums. I’ve not had direct involvement with social myself BUT. A family member of mine is a huge drug addict. Social was involved for years. They knew what said mum was upto and they didn’t take the kids away. They worked with her to try and help her even though they knew she was on drugs and doing all sorts. The kids was well looked after and were safe in their opinion. The children only got taken away recently. And only for a short time. I’m just trying to tell you that your situation imo doesn’t warrant social being involved and I really can’t see them taking any further action over something so petty. What I would do when this is all over is completely cut your sister and mother off. Absolute shameful behaviour from both of them.