She sounds very nasty. I wouldn’t care if I sounded rude I would tell her it’s my baby and nothing to do with you!!
That sounds disgusting. Just ignore her do it for your husband and baby they are really the ones you need ti care about! I had a fight with mine and she still doesn't get her son has his own family now 😕 and I already said to my husband about visits at the hospital because I know her and she will probably going to be there the whole Time not giving a chance to anyone else. The way she's making difference between my unborn son and my 3 year old drives me mad. My in laws are mad with each other so they don't talk that means she doesn't come 😒 came on Sunday for a Bbq which she never asked if we agreed... left everything for me to deal with while kept my daughter burning in the sun and not even offered water or juice... at the end she told me my kitchen rugs are nasty so as my house. Yesterday sended my husband a text if I needed help so she could come and give a hand, he told her to speak with me while having 100% that I would not accept her help. Never got a text from her and glad I never did.
I know you said you don’t want to be rude, but honestly it sounds like you need to be in order to get through to her. Ultimately though, it’s your husband’s responsibility to make sure she backs off. You definitely need to create strong boundaries or just cut off completely
I’ve got a difficult MIL too and honestly your husband needs to step up and tell her to back off. I never said anything to mine as I always hoped he would since it was his mother and I would say something if it was my mother. She’s got no business telling you what to do with your baby and who to have in the delivery room - its up to you not her. It’s difficult to say ignore her so if you can’t nows the time to say something before the baby gets here and she gets worse x
Your husband should be standing up 4 u x
Threaten her that if she doesn't back off you will make her. Don't be scared to be mean, you are protecting your family.. also tell your partner to stand up to her!
No ma’am it’s your son at the end of the day she doesn’t call the shots , I relate with my mother in law telling what’s gonna take place for MY CHILD! Boundaries need to be set and I hate that our in laws are giving so much drama when our babies aren’t even born yet . Like and it’s your husband job to stand for you and speak up that’s unacceptable how you’re being treated
So important to have courage to set boundaries firmly with her now before the baby arrives and have your husband support you. If you can’t set those boundaries now, you’ll be extra exhausted and miserable during your postpartum. You are your best advocate. Don’t expect anyone else to do it for you. If she doesn’t want to respect your boundaries, you need to be ok with cutting her out during your postpartum period. It’s so important you prioritize yourself and bonding with your baby in the first few months… actually years!
You all sound so amazing! It’s reassured me a lot that this is MY child and MY moment. I’m going to be more firm because she can’t take one of the happiest moments of my life away from me
@Jannath it is YOUR moment and you should enjoy it ! Definitely don’t let her ruin it. It’s something I wish I put my foot down with mine as I feel like my first pregnancy has be ruined now and I feel angry towards it all now. X
Cut all ties with her. When she wants a relationship with you guys and her grandchild with no strings attached then maybe it can be considered. But not until then. Remember that this about YOU, your husband and YOUR child. Don’t let anyone take that away from you