@Debs I'm in tears now, thank you so much ❤️ it's hard on anyone going through something like this but especially a child. I've considered trying to get custody of my little brother for some time now but I don't think I'd be able to win.
If your mum is in an abusive relationship you'd certainly have a case for custody. The fact your mum has gone to a relationship with the same set up - she also has some instability. I think if it was me I'd have to. Or atleast start seeking legal advice
@Jodie right but my mom's not getting abused she seems to love this guy so much they just got married like 3 days ago, and I don't think my little brother is getting abused physically atleast, I don't know about mentally.
You said they get into it. That's still an unhealthy volatile home
Can I pm you?? 😭
My parents were addicts too
Pm me too
It couldn't hurt to get some legal advice about custody, there are probably probono offices that could assist.
You're not alone. I've also had a rough life, and can't really offer much advice. I buried all the memories from my childhood for so long. They have haunted me for years. I just try and focus on today and now.
@Chevelle yes
You want to message me cause you’re anonymous
You are more then welcome to pm me if you ever need to talk. I didn’t have a great childhood either but nothing like you did . I had a alcoholic mother growing up . It was not easy to deal with she passed a little less then a year ago. I would definitely consider counseling for you and your brother . And if your older siblings are up for it you guys could fight for joint custody for your younger brother. There is probably someone who would do it probono considering the circumstances. Depending what state you are in. On a light note you are a strong women and a fighter and you survived!
I’m sending you virtual hugs as we speak!!! I had a horrible childhood too, that involved a lot of trauma to me. I’ve been in and out of counseling for years…. suffering from depression and anxiety with panic attacks, etc!!! I’ve learned a long time ago not to share my trauma with everyone because everyone is not for you…speak to someone you can trust and find a good counselor that will listen too.. it helps me to let it than holding it in… I’m also available to talk to you 💕
I'm so sorry this happened to you and that you were basically alone to deal with it. That's not fair and shouldn't happen to anyone. As for your mother, studies show that women who experience domestic violence are at a higher risk of becoming involved with violent partners. This is because the abuse triggers cortisol (fight or flight) and physically damages your brain. Even when the abuse is verbal/threatening only. The get stuck in a cycle that feels familiar to them and they have a false sense of control. I'm not excusing anything your mother did or did not do and she may even be resistant to help if you offered it (counselling etc) I do strongly suggest that you engage with counselling though and if it were me I'd be considering taking custody of my sibling and/or get him some counselling too. You aren't alone ok. You've survived this, you're a warrior 💪