Dating as a single mom: Need advice!

So I’m a single mom to a 3 year old. As it is, I don’t get a lot of time to put towards dating, which is fine since I am pretty picky and don’t find to many guys I’m actually excited about. But recently I started talking to someone who lives in Austin. He was visiting here and that’s how we connected. He is willing to come up here, but also wants me to come to him. As a single mom, how do I even approach this? How can I take a solo trip? I already travel for work so my family watches him when I go out of town for work. Is it okay to ask them to watch him for this too? Do I get a babysitter? And what babysitter even does weekends??? Or do I start slowly introducing them? I usually wait months before thinking of that, so that’s why it’s not really an option. The father isn’t involved so I have my son full time. This guy is exactly my type, everything I’ve been looking for, as I wouldn’t consider long distance with just anyone. Any advice would be so appreciated!

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Ok as someone in an open relationship who has a 10 month old and with a partner in Austin (I live in Dallas): you can definitely ask your parents to watch your kids, if they are not ok with it, you could even decide to take your baby with you and get a baby sitter for night time (a 3 year old is not going to think anything about it, you can just introduce whoever you are seeing as a friend). That’s what I personally would do! Hope it helps 🙏🏻

I agree with the top comment. I am also a single mom of a 3 yr old daughter. Most of the time I let them know all of this upfront and get them to understand if they really want to see me it will be more of them having to come to me. I have introduced before when she was younger because I know for sure she would not remember, but with her being older she is very aware now so I am very selective of who I let come around now. But as a single mom we still deserve happiness and it’s okay to take a break for yourself so asking your parents is totally fine or even a friend you trust.

I definitely wouldn’t introduce any man to my kid until at least 6 months to a year. People show you their true colors within 6 months of that time anyway. Me personally I would tell him he needs to come to you first, stay in a hotel, and y’all go out on little dates but you need to see how he is first before anything. If you let him know everything up front first that you have a child and these are the guidelines. You will see what he chooses and then you go from there. I’m a single mom also and it’s hard trying to get back out there, because you definitely don’t want to make the same mistake again. I say take it slow and just have fun but slowly. Good luck 👍🏾

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