Others wanting to take baby

I know how you feel. My little one is 6 week's old and has had her first sleep over with my mother in law last week. I know she's perfectly safe and well looked after. She's been saying we can stay with her next weekend and leave baby overnight again and collect on Sunday. I'm not ready to leave her overnight again but don't know how to say it either. Sorry no advise, just know you aren't alone in the situation x

If she doesn’t have any experience with babies and is saying she will bring baby back for changing then it would be a hard no. If your happy to teach her so that in time she can then that’s fine. We have family members that only looked after our daughter on their own once she was out of nappies and able to communicate effectively around 2/3 because we all felt more confident with this. If you feel comfortable ask her to take baby for a short walk so you can get something done or just have a rest Any boundaries you put in place just be firm if she gets funny with you so be it, it’s your child x

In a similar situation to you, I've been having some hard days where I've been really sleep deprived and that makes me super anxious about a lot of things including babies health. I finally decided to tell one of my friends this and she was insisting that I leave him with someone to have a break and was saying to call her, etc. Instead of being supportive she said I was being a hypochondriac and just need to leave him with someone else, but I am most definitely not ready to do that yet. I have a break when my partner gets home but I still can't switch off, so definitely can't see leaving him with someone else an option, even my parents who I trust 1000%. Just know that you aren't alone in this, its so hard knowing how to tell people what you need to without them getting offended. But we have every right to decide who has our baby and who doesn't x

I felt very like this with my first.. we were in the middle of COVID and everyone wanted to come see us and hold my little girl and some family tried to say about taking her out. You need to be firm and say no, baby is too young and you're not ready. It's hard and she may have an issue with that but it's your baby. You're the one who makes the choices. If she's willing to spend more time with the baby and learn how to look after a baby then maybe in time you will feel comfortable. You have every right to say no at any point to anyone. X

Have you asked her why she's so hell bent on taking the baby? Seems strange. Also she can ask til she's blue in the face, if nothing else her persistence demonstrates her immaturity. It's frustrating but you'll just have to keep refusing

Absolutely no. Stand your ground! She is clearly not getting the message so I would ramp it up! Good luck

Say something to the effect of "I don't know when I will be ready for others to look after him, so I will let you know when I'm ready for that"

Thats weird she's so insistent on taking him on her own. I won't even let my mum or on laws take my baby on their own yet cause I'm just not ready. I wouldn't be able to relax so it'd be pointless! My mother in law keeps asking tho..I just keep saying no. I'm hoping she gets bored asking! X

I completely understand but honestly if you’re not comfortable don’t do it! Although I moan I’m tired I wouldn’t even leave my LO for a couple hours I’m BF so couldn’t in any case they’re your baby and you should be able to set boundaries can you partner perhaps say you don’t feel comfortable leaving her yet

I sometimes think people think our babies are dolls I really do like it’s not their ‘turn’ it’s so annoying

I'm on baby number 3 and she's 9 weeks old and I still haven't left her with anyone as I don't feel ready u do what u feel is right and what u r comfortable with

I would say no...its your baby no need to tip toe around anyone....I've made it pretty clear to everyone that no one can have my child unless it's my mum. No one dare asks me.

Thank you so much for all of your replies!! You’ve all really helped me out. I just need to say “no” to people. I just find it difficult because I’m not a very assertive person. And my husbands family have fallen out with us for months in the past (before having our baby) over small little things or if we put a boundary in place or say no. I hate confrontation. But you’re all right. We need to do what’s best for us and our baby. And everyone is different. For now I only feel comfortable with my mum and my husband’s mum having him on their own. ❤️ Thank you for the reassurance and for giving me strength x