Tell me if I need to get a grip 🤦🏽♀️ (nicely please!)
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I wouldn’t count myself lucky like Kelsey said. My mum & dad have bought us our pram, car seat, isofix base, crib & sheets. My MIL & FIL haven’t bought us anything other than a pair of blue crocs, a blue tracksuit & another blue outfit. I really really don’t like blue and I’ve made that quite obvious to everyone that knows me. I’d rather not be bought anything than have things that I don’t like. My boy won’t be wearing things that I don’t like, simple. 😊
It's a funny one. We are taught to be grateful for whatever we are given but if something is useless to you then it's just a waste and you have to pretend to like it rather than be honest and say what you really wanted. I would need a changing backpack, if I was given a shouter bag it throws my hip out to carry on one side. We needed a baby monitor without WiFi because the signal drops and its unusable. I'm with you OP yes technically you could be called ungrateful but especially with your first baby you want everything just right and I would react exactly the same way
I am with you on this totally not unreasonable at all. My mil is amazing but got so excited about baby she bought everything and anything. Anything she seen she got it some stuff we hadn’t even had chance to look at. I got so overwhelmed we kindly had to ask her to stop as it was taking out excitement away. We then devised a list to get the stuff we wanted and said if there’s then bit she wants to buy then that’s what we have picked. I think I’m doing that they should then respect your wishes and wants - you have researched and picked for a reason and that’s why you have asked. My bf is really close with his mum and he spoke to her and she got upset as she hadn’t meant to upset us and hadn’t realised. I think sometimes been honest is key and you don’t want to waste her money so mayb allow her to return then and explain if what you want is too much etc then there’s no expectation there on her xx
If you have a good relationship with your MIL explain that to her and ask her to return it. I get one with mine and she bought some clothes, the majority I did not like, so I explained that they were not my taste and sent pictures of what I would have bought. She returned it and realised what I like and have bought now things that I'm really happy about.
I bought everything myself so I'd have the things that suited our needs, if people buy us presents it doesn't matter if we like them or not, I'll just say thanks and pass them on if I don't, just take a pic with the item, send it to the gifter, no point stressing
No ask her for a gift receipt or something so you can exchange for what it is that you wanted and put the difference towards yourself. She specifically offered to buy you those things and asked which you wanted to which you told her. If she had an issue why didn’t she tell you xx
You can be grateful, and still go get the ones you wanted, just donate the ones she got you to a mama in need and tell your mil that someone really needed them so you just went and bought your own, this way you get what you want and mil's feelings are safe.
a gift is a gift!
I think you should greatfully tell her that your going to get the items that you wanted as that's what you would prefer and would ask her if she would be willing to take the others back and put the money towards them or would she prefer for you to just purchase the products you wanted. I wouldn't make such a big deal out of it, it's not what you wanted but your greatful for her making the effort!
feel yourself lucky, 34 weeks and not had anything from my MIL even though she's had our amazon wishlist for ages. Not even a pack of nappies or wipes! Luckily my family have bought us a few of the most expensive stuff. Could you use it or do you feel like your partner could tell his mum that its the wrong one as that's what i'd tell mine to do 😂