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3 months ago

Anyone else think it's weird when you see grandparents out with young grandkids?

I wondered what opinions are on this. It always strikes me as odd when I see grandparents out with young grandkids. Like where are the parents? My own parents are of the attitude well we did our job, now you have children it's up to you. I just find it odd people have parents that do that, personally.
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3 months ago

@Ella seems some delicate flower women can't handle the truth🤣

3 months ago

I don’t find it weird and quite like it. It’s nice. It allows grandparents to bond with grandchildren and parents to have a break! X

3 months ago

I’ve reported too, absolutely disgusting excuse for a human. I actually had sympathy for you until you said what you did and the fact you’re raising a child???? Tf.

3 months ago

Also reported. How disgusting

3 months ago

When I go back to work on 5th July, my mum is having my daughter full time. My mum has her every time I do a kit day and she has her on random days just because she loves being with her! As does my dad and sister! Half the time I’m not even doing anything they just want special time with her! My dad wants to retire so he can spend his days with my mum and my LG! Don’t see the issue when they are so willing and adore her so much?!

3 months ago

Also reported

3 months ago

@Mel you saying I don't love my child, I can assure you I do. Women like you are the reason men commit rape🤣

3 months ago

It's not weird, grandparents should spend time with their grandchildren otherwise the kids will grow up not knowing their grandparents

3 months ago

Clearly you have made this post to argue with people. Toxic people shouldn’t deserve this much attention…bye!!

3 months ago

It's not weird one bit.....my mum has done school run many times with my children when I have been on holiday. She takes them out as she loves spending time with her grandchildren. My eldest child is now 20 and when he was 4 he used to call my mum because he wanted to go to her house and she would drive up and collect him.

3 months ago

Incog usually if you have rubbish parents who did the bare minimum as you grew up, they in turn also make shit grandparents too sadly. It’s totally normal for grandparents to want to be involved in their grandkids lives - yes even at the baby/toddler stage. My neighbours across the road her dad visits 4 days out of 7 whilst she works since her child was 9m old. He does nappy changes, feeds, takes her to baby classes etc. Their child is now 2 and he still continues. My other neighbours have their grandkids stay with them most weekends and the kids are 1 and 3. If you’ve grown up with parents who are cold, unaffectionate, have their own mental health problems and never should have had a kid in the first place, then sadly the idea of loving grandparents would naturally be dismissed as a myth because it shows them up as being abnormal parents. All that to say it’s definitely NOT weird Incog and I’m sorry your parents are so unloving and horrid towards you and your child.

3 months ago

@Mariah I specifically mentioned younger kids I.e babies and toddlers. It's normal to me for grandparents to see older kids but not for them to do the nappy part themselves/ take baby out on their own without the parents.

3 months ago

@N 💞 oh I have nowt to do with them either. I'm doing it solo💪

3 months ago

You’ve only mentioned grandparents, a support network could be other family members: siblings, cousins, uncles, aunts, or it could be friends.

3 months ago

@Bree no you didn't I just think you're odd

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3 months ago

This is such a weird post…how dare grandparents spend time with their grandchildren! 🙄😂

3 months ago

Did I trigger you ? 😘 At this point imma annoy you as much as your post is annoying me 🤣 your clearly attention seeking

3 months ago

@Bree i literally asked an opinion it doesn't require therapy. I don't care what you believe

3 months ago

OP we have the family that we are born with, and the family that we make and create as life goes along…. In friends…spiritual parents (older people who we see as a parental figure but was not biological etc) spiritual siblings…(sister from another sister, brother from another mother) this is the support that Afi is talking about. Soul mates in friends etc. People who we’ve become close with as life goes along.

3 months ago

Can I ask why at this point you haven’t deleted this post like you got more than some feedback 100+ comments later and literally 99% disagrees it’s very repetitive and a lot of us feel bad for you and I Personally recommend therapy but it’s got my notifications going off quite a bit and at this point I’m kinda having a hard time believing this isn’t you attention seeking.

3 months ago

@Afi not sure where the support network is if not family? Not sure what you mean.

3 months ago

@Maria my dad doesn't like his family so never saw them

3 months ago

@Jessy the only judgemental one is you. I always fo incognito for all my posts- who is judging and assuming now? You are🤣 Its like if I say certain food is weird I'm judging the person who eats it. No, love, I just find it weird.

3 months ago

I would only find it an issue if the grandparents were too old and of bad health to care for the children.

3 months ago

my grandparents raised me so i don’t find it odd, but my grandparents on my dads side would still take my brother and i for a day or the weekend growing up. i don’t see why it’s judged if grandparents want to spend time and bond with their grandchildren or in my case why judge a grandparent for taking in a kid

3 months ago

This is quite a judgemental and rude post. It’s like saying grandparents can’t be involved in the grandchildren’s life. My son absolutely loves all his grandparents, my mother in law takes care of him once a week so I can work as nursery is expensive and so she can spend time with him. There’s a reason why you have gone incognito and it’s sad, I feel sorry for you.

3 months ago

How on earth is it weird? I think it’s beautiful when children have a relationship with their grandparents. Hell, my grandma was my best friend before she passed away. You should cherish every moment you get with them. Life is to short and precious!

3 months ago

My grandma always had my siblings when they were under the age of 9. My mom was at work so her mom helped her

3 months ago

It’s not weird. You’re just not use to it and unfortunately your parents conditioned you to think it’s ok for them to not be involved with your child unless it’s an emergency. We were taking my daughter out today and my dad called and asked if he could spend time with her. That’s what grandparents do.

3 months ago

My mother will certainly NEVER be left alone with my son, but MY grandma ( his great grandma) will.

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3 months ago

I think it’s nice and think of all the money they save on babysitting and daycare.

3 months ago

My in laws love taking my daughter on road trips and day trips 🤷🏼‍♀️

3 months ago

It depends on the circumstances.

3 months ago

No not weird at all. My mum is very active in my LO life and has her while I work x

3 months ago

I personally think its lovely, they are treasuring these special moments with their grandkids plus like my parents say they have the advantage of handing them back when they've had their fun 🤣.

3 months ago

You and your family are in the minority here. I didn’t read all the other responses but you guys sound weird. Is the dad’s family the same way? Don’t take that as a dig as you see grandparents with their grandkids as weird too🤷🏽‍♀️. I’m curious what your ethnic background is? Also, there is such thing as objective normality and you guys are not normal. Life should be embraced and yeah I’ve been around grandparents that don’t want to change diapers but to say they don’t want to spend any time with them alone just because they aren’t the parents is odd. Idk, I want to hang out with your family. It just sounds like a Curb Your Enthusiasm episode.

3 months ago

I think its great when grandparents want to be hands on and are a big part of their grandkids lives, think thats how it should be. Sadly i wont be an option for me but id love it if it was x

3 months ago

I don't think it's weird, it's nice for your kids to spend time with different family members. I understand parents who object to basically raising their grandkids, they have done their job and little kids are tiring but my parents look after my son a few times a month, his other grandparents too. My dad loves taking him out and showing him off 😂

3 months ago

It takes a village! I think we forget this nowadays. I was with my grandparents all the time from infanthood and even all the way through teen years. I loved it. To this day I’m so grateful for my grandparents and the time we had (I have tears in my eyes while typing this 🥲) #grandmasgirlforever

3 months ago

I mean my MIL babysits for me while I work and she takes me son out occasionally so I don't think it's odd at all. Plus if the grandparents want to take the grandkids out and spend time with them what's wrong with that? Doesn't mean they are raising them

3 months ago

I don’t think it’s weird at all. My mum and dad are young grandparents (both in their early fifties) and take my two girls out all the time (4 and 8 months) I work so instead of putting my girls in to nursery, they spend time with their grandparents. My partners mum isn’t even 50 yet and only works in the mornings so she is our main source of childcare. My girls have an amazing bond with their grandparents, my dad is literally my daughters favourite person beside me and her dad. I think it’s lovely, not weird

3 months ago

It sounds like your relationship with your parents might not be very good which is really sad 😞 but its really normal for grandparent to care for/spend time with/be with their grandchildren without the parents 😁

3 months ago

My parents are both retired and absolutely love looking after their granddaughter - I’m still on maternity leave, but they happily take her for a few hours so I can get bits done around the house - not odd at all!

3 months ago

My mom and son are so close when he get hurt if she’s there he will go to her instead of me but f she stays at our house he sleeps with her a bond between grandparents and and grandchildren is BEAUTIFUL I I’m a grandmas baby and WHAT I WOULDNT GIVE JUST TO SEE HER FACE OR HEAR HER VOICE

3 months ago

Why would it be weird ?

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3 months ago

My parents and my husband's parents live abroad so we only see them a few times a year, but every time my mum visits she's in full childcare mode. She takes them out, to the park, they have little lunch dates together, it's very sweet. I think it's lovely for children to have a close relationship with grandparents. I grew up being very close to both sets of grandparents and I think they had a massive impact in my life.

3 months ago

Honestly I think it’s more weird that your parents don’t want to take your kid. Mine BEG me to take mine anywhere.

3 months ago

It's actually odd that you think it's odd for Grandparents to be looking after their Grandkids 🤨

3 months ago

@Emma I agree with this 👏🏼👏🏼

3 months ago

I just want to send this person lots of love as what’s obvious here is that they haven’t experienced the luxury of having supportive family members and I can totally relate as my family are like this and don’t help with my kids and show no effort! It’s only since being with my partner and seeing how hands on and giving of their time his parents are with my kids that I now realise that my family sadly aren’t the “normal” ones and it’s something I grieve a lot whilst witnessing it on the constant! If I’m lucky to enough to have grandkids ill never be how my parents were with mine! Our childhood conditioning and what we witness is what we class as our “normal” until you see different X

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