Grandparent rant

I posted a couple of weeks ago about how I haven’t seen or spoken to my parents in about 9/10 weeks as I’m fed up of being the first one to always make the effort to see them or message. I tried to communicate with them in a polite way about how they have made me feel not being involved etc….. All I got back was ‘if your doing tit for tat you didn’t answer my message, I can’t be dealing with your attitude’ Ive just looked back I responded to her last message to me on 2nd April. She then didn’t send me another message until 30th April asking how things are going with my pregnancy. again I responded the next day but never heard anything after that! I know she’s seen & read my response. She always makes me feel bad even when I’m the one which made the effort. She’s blames it on her treatment which she’s been having for 5-6yrs. She’s made promises which she didn’t even keep about getting stuff for baby. I feel so hurt and alone. I don’t understand why they are being like this. I can’t do much else 😭 Sorry for the rant I dunno what to do or who to speak to

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Hey, I don’t have the best relationship with my parents and I live a few hundred miles away from them as I moved away for work years ago. I hadn’t spoken to my mum since Christmas until I told her we were pregnant (only told her a month ago) and since then she’s been in touch every week - it doesn’t seem genuine, seems very forced and insincere. I’ve kinda learnt to take a step back, if someone else close to you was having this issue with their parents what advice would you give them? Sorry that’s not much help at all, but don’t worry you’re not alone xx

Hey, I’m in a similar spot. My mom and I don’t have the best relationship, but she’s always been so excited about having grandchildren etc. Since I’ve told her I’m pregnant she has showed very very little interest, hasn’t checked up, made no effort to fix our relationship, and was then surprised when I said she wasn’t welcome in the birth room 😪 It’s definitely a very hard situation to navigate. You aren’t alone!

I have this with my MIL. I send her doctor updates, scans , pictures- doesn’t ask about the baby and then usually in conversation will say oh you haven’t sent me enough pictures. It’s a two way street sometimes there has to be an effort in both parts

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