How do I tell my mom I don’t want her in the delivery room !?

This sounds like my mum I straight up told her I just want it to be me and my partner and noone else and you'll have to learn to accept that and she did eventually

If she wasn't there when your sister gave birth to her two kids, you could say that you feel like that would be unfair if she suddenly decided to come and be there with you

Tell her the truth, or don't tell her when your in labour, or say only 2 birthing partners allowed and you've made your choice already. But I'd just be honest

Tell her…. It’s no worth your peace to avoid the conversation and then give in. Also you can’t have everyone there. Tell her what she can do to help…. If you haven’t had the best relationship she might feel like she is helping.

@Elena she was there for the birth of her first grandson , but after that she didn’t really stay in his life

@Kayla you could still probably use the fairness card and say that you feel like it's too much given that your sister overall had less from her, but obviously the best would be to sort this out now and not when you'll be tired and busy with the baby. I feel like even if she will be sad/upset after you tell her asap that you only want your godmother and your partner there, once the baby comes, it will sort of fix the overall family mood and you'll feel more empowered. Plus, others said it, you can't have too many people there and you already planned the whole thing. You have to take care of yourself first and not of everyone else's feelings. After all, if she wants to be a good grandma she never "had a chance to be", she will still help you after the birth (which isn't sure so anyway it's better to know sooner than later).

Is it an option to just not tell her you’re in labor? You don’t have to give her permission to visit the hospital, you can tell them you don’t want visitors- or specifically don’t want her there. If she tries to say something you can say you never invited her and didn’t realize she was serious

My mum was coming up to help me clean the house on Thursday next week, turns out my C-section will be Wednesday and I said don’t bother taking the day off - I’ll be overwhelmed and in hospital and don’t know when I’m coming out, I’d rather she saved the holiday days. My favourite is she keeps telling me she she will be there when it’s critical (my OH keeps laughing at this perception that it’s critical at any point) but her enthusiasm is adorable for her first grand child, I’ve just explained that my OH is actually very capable of looking after unlike previous waste of space when I needed her to be my person. She gets it

Be blunt with her. “As a fully grown adult and a mother, I only want my partner there with me. We are building our family and this is an intimate irreplaceable moment”.

You have to stick to what you need. You will never go through this birth again. Tell her the truth and tell her what you do need her to do for you to make it the best situation.

@Elena very solid advice. Thank you !

@Kari “ you will never go through this birth again “ you’re so right

@Carly I’m glad your mom got it ! 😩

@Kayla either way she’s not getting a choice - I think my waters just broke!!

@Carly exactly & omgggg SAFE DELIVERIES MOMMA 🥰🫶🏽🫶🏽

I would say the truth to her AND I wouldn't call or text her whenever you are in labor or if your water broke. I would simply call her after you gave birth, whenever you feel ready, without any rush. Even if that means when you will be home already. I personally have the best relationship possible with my mom, though, after my emergency c-section, I didn't want to see anyone... I was so mad at my boyfriend for inviting my mother and my sisters a couple of hours after, when I was in pain and so tired. I just wanted to be alone with my baby! I didn't have the time to take my baby in my arms that my mother and sisters did before I could. I was heartbroken. This was too fast. I didn't have any mom/baby time. No skin to skin. If I could go back in time, I wouldn't have anyone but my boyfriend there, so we could enjoy our private unique moment together before having the baby in everyone's arms, before having to entertain everyone or lack sleep because of everyone's presence...

I’m having a similar issue with my mil but for different reasons. I ended up telling her that I felt very anxious about having anyone there with me in case there were complications and that I would feel more relaxed with just my husband and the midwife for the sake of the baby. She was upset at first but got over it pretty quickly. You and your baby are the most important people in that room during such an important moment, you don’t want to be thinking or stressing about anything else

I had the same problem. I just didn’t tell her the day of my induction and called her when the baby arrived. I told her afterwards inductions can take up to three days so we didn’t know the baby was coming that night. Sometimes you say the truth to people and then still don’t hear you.

Just say the hospitals policy won't allow that many people in the room