MIL has major emotional/covert incest with my husband
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I mean I love my son just at much as any other mom but this is just yuck! I would never even dream of acting like that towards my son. WTF? This made me uncomfortable reading this. I had to stop to catch my breath I was getting heated. I'm sorry this is going on. And during your pregnancy. Congratulations by the way.
Why is she around? She needs be no contact. I’d rather be alone than with a man that allows his mother to be emotionally toxic. Single motherhood is stressful for sure but this would rob me of my peace. I value my peace more than my fear of single parenting
@keryn the fact that he literally just told me yesterday that “my mother has always called me that. You and I are not going to see eye to eye in this.” It really irks me .
@Dakota trust me, I’ve thought about this. I admire you, because it’s true.. peace is better. I just love my husband so much and would hate to separate the fam with young kiddos. But you’re 100 right ! It’s just harder done than said for me.
@Mary Padilla 🇵🇭🇺🇲 thank you 🙏🏼 I’ve been feeling so disgusted, I can’t wait for this week to be over. But the fact he’s not changing this one thing for me is such a red flag.
I understand. Just imagine your girl child having that relationship with her dad and she’s married. You want to nip that in bud now. Your babes will think it’s normal since it’s normalized by his family and him.
I call my son Papi, I have a healthy relationship with my husband and I never call him papi lol. I also have a relationship with my own dad and I call him daddy. It might be in the same sense as when some people call their son's papa or poppa. Yes by true definition it means "daddy" but I mean your experience might be different.
@Diana I call my father Papi. Which means daddy. I also call him papa, which means dad. As a mother you can call your baby, toddler, even teen Papi. But a grown as man being called daddy is not right. Especially when it’s mixed with all the other things she does.
@Lisa I call my father Papi. Which means daddy. I also call him papa, which means dad. As a mother you can call your baby, toddler, even teen Papi. But a grown as man being called daddy is not right. Especially when it’s mixed with all the other things she does. Once your son is a grown man it will be out of place to continue to use Papi. But as a normal non incest relationship between mom and son, I can see that being able to slide. But not when it’s mixed with back and thigh stroking, showing off the boobs to grown son. And telling me his wife “ now all you have to do after your baby is born is do your boobs so they can be perky like mine”. So yea, I’m sure you’re great, ❤️ but in this case is very malignant.
Yeah that is fucking weird lol. My mother in law does some stuff like that too and still kisses him on the lips which I think is weird but idk if it's just because I never kissed any of my family on the lips before who knows 🤣
@Lisa yes! I’ve heard this before. It’s just like saying hun type of thing.. it’s hard to explain in English and it definitely doesn’t mean anything sexual. It’s just a nickname
He’s got major mummy issues too
Sounds like cultural differences. But if it makes you uncomfortable your husband should support you.
I get how you feel. My MIL walks around with her breast FULLY out, swinging around. I’ve also witnessed her comment on my partners private area and how he like to “keep it to a certain side”🤮🤮 grossssss. she’s even reach for it, “jokingly”. and when I bring it up, he understands how I feel but it makes him uncomfortable to talk about so he brushes it off. Luckily she’s evil asf so we cut her off and I don’t have to deal with her psychotic self. What helped me was to put things in a different perspective for him. I would ask him “how would you feel if my father or brother made comments on my private area or went to touch it jokingly” and that helped him see how odd it was.
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If you have a son, call him Papi, to see if he can understand why it may be strange!
@Chrystal I’ll add, we are the same culture. We are both Hispanic, both born on the same island. My parents and his parents are from the same country. I guess it doesn’t sit right when combining with all the other things she does malignant .
@Reena I vouch never to call my son Papi or Papi chilo… Papo is for children in adoration. But Papi, nope. Lol
@Tris thank you for your help… I feel like you really understand me and what I’m going through! It’s crazy. It’s one of those, see it to believe it. I never thought women, let alone mothers like this existed 😥
It’s gross. I think you should tell him that it’s gross for her to act that way and that it’s gross of him to be comfortable with his mom calling him daddy. I would start questioning how he feels towards his mother that her consistently having her nipples out and calling him such a provocative nickname isn’t weird for him. Creepy creepy shit