Niece up for adoption
My brother has recently started a divorce with his wife. She took her kids with her, but left one child with him that was his from a previous relationship. He had stated that he isn’t fit to parent alone and is wanting to release custody and place her for adoption. She is 12 years old, I have not been around her in a while because of distance, but I am considering taking her. The issue that I am struggling with - I am 18 weeks pregnant with my first right now. I have worked with children my entire adult life, but I am only 23 and she is almost a teenager. I worry about the transition, the smaller age gap between the two of us, the lack of experience with my own children (rather than students) and so on. My husband is open to the idea if we can figure out the logistics.
Could you please help me consider things I may not be thinking about, give realistic advice, or whatever you think I need to hear to help me make a decision?
I want what is best for her, even if it isn’t us. Only one other family member is considering taking her, and honestly there is drug problems with those family members so I worry. I am scared if she goes into foster care she will not have a stable enough environment. I am in school for family and child studies and already have a degree in early childhood education. I feel like the best person out of these choices but I’m not positive either.