in March 2023 Babies 🇬🇧

In laws not taking pictures of mum and baby.

Hi guys, whenever I meet with my in laws, they're always taking photos with my babies with themselves or my husband only. I don't mind if they take pictures with them but I would have thought it would be a bit fair if they included me sometimes too. If I have my phone around me I'll take a few shots of them with my kids. But it's never reciprocated. They never take photos of me with my babies. I've dropped the hint a few times by saying I don't have any photos of me and my babies. They say they will take it but never do. They're constantly asking for pictures in the group chat of what the kids are doing. When my daughter was born, I'd send a couple a day. But I stopped sending these regularly when my husband then went back to work after paternity leave. I obviously was managing alot more by myself. I'd get texts from them almost demanding pictures 'right now'. My daughter would be asleep or I wouldnt have my phone on me. They'd go to my husband asking for pictures and that they asked me and they got nothing. I've raised this with my husband seperately but he takes lightly and makes it out like I'm overthinking it and no one is doing it out of malice. But I'm not sure about that. The last time I raised this with him, he pulled out his phone and snapped a picture of me and which ever child I had with me when I'm not even ready (I've just woken up or have spit down my t-shirt). The only photos I have of myself and kids is selfies I've taken but I don't want only selfies. I don't want to miss any important moments. Am I overthinking this? What should I do?

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You're not alone. I've gotten upset with my bf. He only ever takes photos of the baby by herself and posts them to his fb or sends them to his family in a group chat. However, he's never posted pictures of me and the baby together aside from when she was born. I had rags on my face from where they had to give me magnesium and needed to stay cool. So really you couldn't see me in the picture more or less. I've brought it up to him and this hasn't changed since I mentioned that it was bothering me. Yet I'll post photos of him and the baby... it makes him look like he's the best parent ever and I'm just chopped liver.

Once again it’s the in laws not considering the mum in all of this 🙃 I’d treat yourself to a lovely photo shoot of just YOU and the kids, get a friend or somebody just to take some nice pics of you, get dolled up and feeling good and just ignore the comments of the in laws, you’re a busy parent

Hey x I have the same situation (I have just selfies with my baby) and I think you are overthinking a bit :) they want pics of their grandbabies and their son and I think its ok, it shows love! I cant imagine my mum to ask me to take a pic of my husband lol but she loves looking at my pictures, so its the same the other way round :) just whenever you are with them, ask for a pic, noone will refuse you x

My husband hardly ever takes pictures of me and the kids but I have loads of pictures with my kids because I get friends or sometimes strangers when I am out with the kids to take pictures of us and no one has ever denied helping me out with pics . I doubt they know it’s hurting you but if I were in your shoes I will totally ignore like it doesn’t count xx

I am photographer and this is reason why mums book family session… my husband is absolutely rubbish taking photos and we have beautiful pictures of him and our son and I have nothing. However on the other side I am guilty of not taking as much pictures with my son and MIL , my parents live abroad and I am taking any opportunity to take pictures with them and honestly I don’t think my MIL ever took a picture of me and our son.

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