My husband doesn’t get it!

I read stories everywhere about how good partners are during the pregnancy period. Bringing food, massages, etc. I am 30 weeks with twins. I feel like my husband has been more absent during pregnancy compared to before. It just feels dismissive to my whole experience. I feel he doesn’t get it! He doesn’t seem excited even though we tried for three years.

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I’m so sorry 🥹 a supportive partner can totally change the game . I hope he gets better

So sorry to hear this but girl you can do this regardless im doing it on my own with twins xx

I'm so sorry. Have you had previous losses? Could it be that he's afraid? If he's not supportive can you take time out for yourself? Take yourself out for a massage or day at the spa. Get a haircut or mani/Pedi whatever it is that makes you feel amazing. You deserve all the love and pampering carrying twins mama you're a doing amazing ❤️ I'm sorry he's not being supportive and I hope he will change his ways the closer you get to delivery. I've heard alot of men are really freaked out by pregnancy maybe he's overly anxious about having twins? whatever it is I'm sure he'll come around🙏 ❤️

My husband was pretty checked out sometimes too… like he still is expecting me to be as physically capable. Idk what it will take, other than when my doctor flat out said no more of driving and other things. It is so hurtful. Sending hugs

Thank you ladies! We haven’t experienced loses, just the struggle of IVF, but I do think he is scared about having twin girls. Yes Ashley! I have always been independent in our relationship so I think he doesn’t get it. He expects me to be able to be as physically able as you said and doesn’t get how vulnerable I feel. I have tried talking to him but the message gets lost. I am worried if he is like this pregnant how good of an example he is going to be for our girls. I’ve heard that it doesn’t hit guys until the baby comes out…

@Carolina you sound like me so much. I’m so used to just being the one to get things done or handling things. I too try to focus on. It honestly took me breaking down one day crying. I hate feeling dependent on others.

One thing that helped us is that my husband downloaded one of the pregnancy apps and reads it every day, so he’s getting lots of info about all the different physical and emotional things that could be happening from an outside source and then asks me how I’m feeling and can contribute to the conversation based on what he’s read. I think it gives him a way to learn on his own rather than me having to tell him everything

I went through this with my ex. My second pregnancy he pretended like it wasn't happening for months. I wish I could say you won't resent him and it's a phase... but in my case it was just the beginning