How to stop cosleeping!?
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Her down and walk away and she does it herself (it’s now 2 months after sleep school but she’s been doing this for the last couple of weeks) Consistency is key. It made a huge difference to not engage with her. I used to say “it’s ok” and look at her and smile - all of that just gets them all riled up lol. we were also floored by how effective just saying “shhhhh” really is at calming them
We took our babe to sleep school so I have some info from that that I’ll pass along! It’s really important that bub starts learning how to put themselves to sleep in the cot so that even when she wakes at night, you won’t be bothered as often. We were told to soothe in your arms, once she’s settled (or if it just isn’t working) pop her down in the cot. Stroke her head, say shhhh while patting the front of her nappy rhythmically. Do this for 2 mins and pick up again if she isn’t settling (settling doesn’t mean asleep-even just starting to have some breaks in the crying for a couple of seconds). Keep repeating back and forth between pick up and put down. Remember the goal is to fall asleep while in the cot. White noise on, stay calm, don’t make eye contact or talk to her. Shhhh only. It’s so hard at first and we had a few really rough days but they get used to it. My bub went from only contact naps and had to be fed to sleep and transferred soooo carefully to now we just lay
@Amani yes please!
I can recommend you to a facebook group if you would like!
What works for us for night time sleep is my little one falling asleep on my boob, once he falls deeply asleep I then leave and sleep on my bed. I find this way I don’t disturb him with my moving and he doesn’t when he stirs in his sleep. He still wakes up for feed at night but not as much. I usually end up sleeping with him after the first feed cause I’m too sleepy to go back to my bed. Also cosleeping and feeding to sleep is something that took time to get used to, and was uncomfortable in the beginning. He’s now 4 months and it’s so much better. But it’s my experience and what we chose to do.
The only thing that worked for me in this situation was a cot. Getting rid of next to me- and cot. Swaddled till could roll. White noise. Let baby fall asleep on you then transfer down. And repeat when they wake! Mine will go 8pm till early hours then come into my bed for 7-8 Am whilst I wake up to the world and she’s awake playing with her feet at this point! Good luck!