@Talaya yes you’re right on the assuming/excuse! thank you for the advice sometimes it’s hard to keep all of this bottled up
Her allowing you to live there does not strip you of your motherhood. Your mother in law is petty. Set your boundaries. I feel you on the kisses. My mil often does the same. She "forgets". The make up marks are gross...
Having boundaries for YOUR child is completely ok and you have every right!! Just because someone is doing something for you doesn’t mean you have keep quiet about things that make you uncomfortable. Have a sit down with her and discuss your boundaries once again, your boyfriend needs to be on the same page as you aswell! All that makeup stuff shouldn’t even come in contact with your child’s skin & anytime she interrupts your mother’s phone calls with your baby, simply tell her “Give me one sec she’s talking to her grandma”. Don’t assume she hears you otp with her because she’ll keep using that as an “oh I didn’t know it was your mom” excuse.
@Morgan yeah since i’ve lived here i always felt as if i can’t speak up because she lets us stay with her. i forgot that it doesn’t mean i can’t have/express my boundaries. thank u for helping me realize this again. and yes they are gross! i don’t even do that myself i’m always being careful not to leave any on her skin/clothes.