contact with in laws

I send fb messages with pictures. It’s up to my husband to call her. I’ll update her with really important information but not for every giggle, wave, smile or word

I’ve had a few comments made already about how I don’t involve them or keep them updated. My baby’s not even here yet. I think mil are just hard work, you need to focus on you and do what you need xx

I update no one but my sister bc we live very far apart. If other ppl ask about him we give updates but thats all.

@Aoiffe I have sent pics and videos every now and again but I’ve told my husband to call her more often so she can leave me alone

@Louise this was how My MIL was when I was pregnant. They are hard work. I do call her but I will not be doing it everyday. She can also call to check in if she cares so much.

I’m not the best about messaging anyone first but yes I do try to send cute videos and photos to my MIL or in the in-laws family group chat.

I'm not gonna lie, snapchat has saved me sooo much trouble. I just send all the snaps im already taking of baby to MIL. Also do this with my mother and grandmother. I don't get mad if they save them, but they all know we don't post her online with out very special circumstances. We typically see them once a week for family dinners

Nope I never did after she told me she didn’t think he’d survive when she first saw him (he was 12 weeks early)

I update inlaws and mom when I have appts and send pics but I don't do it regularly nor do they hound me

My MIL is lovely and lives a long way away so we will only see her a few times a year so I will try really hard to send wee pics and videos and we have a family group chat. We also ft her once a week so when baby comes will try our hardest to keep doing that but she also isn't the type to hound

No, my husband does though, I never message/phone but they never ask me either

I send photos on a WhatsApp group I have with my parents and it’s then my husband choice to share them with his mother. The only time I sent her anything it was a video of my LO wishing her a happy birthday. Up until two weeks ago I didn’t even have her number 🤷‍♀️ in my defence, she keeps changing numbers, I can’t keep up 😂

Yeah, no way I'm taking time away from baby to call someone. ILs get a call from me and my husband once per week or less.

Oh but just to add I wouldn't be calling for updates etc like that is such a waste of time, sending a pic over WhatsApp takes 1sec but a big phone call multiple times a week no way

@L 💜 omg I’m so sorry she said that.

She doesn’t get anything from me now. After what he went through in the NICU and him being where he is now. I just focus on my boy instead of updating everyone. There’s only my sister who’s ever bothered with asking how he’s doing. And I usually update her during nap time or on a day he’s at nursery. But I used to be close with MIL until she said that. I mean I know some people who would think it seeing how small he was but you NEVER say it out loud especially to the mum 🙄

No, I deal with my family and he deals with his

My MIL keeps trying to remind me that I can always call her, ect. I'm not really one for phone calls, even pre-pregnancy, and especially not when people like to ramble on and on for over an hour about random stuff. I can't imagine thats going to change when I have a newborn to look after 24/7.

I send photos and videos to my family through our family chat (which consists of my parents, me, my husband, my brother and my brother's fiancée). I'm not in a family chat with my husband's family so 🤷🏻

My in laws call sometimes twice a day and want a pic every day. If LO has an appointment or class, they know about it and will message at the time of appointment to ask how it went. They live 10mins away and see my LO a couple times a week so not like they are missing anything 🤷🏽‍♀️ Even went as far as asking for a copy of the birth certificate which I ignored. It's all love as its their only grandchild but I let my husband deal with it as for me it's too much and I personally find it overbearing and I will snap if I was left to deal with it!

I did here and there but now I don't. I was never really close to my boyfriend’s family. So my boyfriend will send them pictures and videos of our child.