More of a say if it’s to do with your house. Id voice this before it gets too much for you. You need some you time. It’s difficult being a step mum but you’re doing amazing remember that🫶🏻
Sounds like your getting overwhelmed with all the responsibility which is understandable, dad needs to step up a bit more. Also think you need a chat with dad, about his “preference” to sleep downstairs. He has a room to sleep in, he can’t run the roost to sleep in a family space or id just continue what you usually do and I’m sure he’d prefer to sleep in his own bed when you wake him up by getting ready! Speak to your partner, your his step mum yes but equally dad should be helping you more and like you say it’s your house too! You’re a team, you should be working together. You may not be his mum, but in our house we have a 4 month old and we want to aline how we raising our child the same as my SD can’t have one rule for one and different for another. I will treat my SD the same as I will my daughter, if my partner has ever disagreed with my decision he will talk to me when in private and it’s usually bc he thinks I’m too soft hahaha! When it comes to decisions you should have
I think it may be a good idea for SS to have a jobs list for stuff you want him to do? If he does this stuff he can be rewarded with pocket money to buy the things he wants when he’s with you? He can then have motivation to do jobs that he should be doing e.g tidy room, homework, hang up uniform etc but also have the value of money so he can’t demand things everytime he’s with you? Just an idea x