Forgo baby shower, alternative ideas?
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Since it gives you so much anxiety... if you have to host it, I would pass, but if a friend offered, I would let them know it's a source of anxiety and you want it to be small and intimate. And see if they are willing to take any familial blame for not inviting certain people (that's a good friend!). Or you could do the same, but instead of while you're pregnant, have a "meet the baby" shower. Then the baby takes some of the attention off of you, too.
I didn’t have one as I don’t like the fuss! Instead I just went for a ‘baby brunch’ with nearest and dearest! Had breakfast, received gifts and was home a few hours later xx
If you don’t want to have one then you don’t have to . I can honestly say I was very grateful for having a baby shower, I haven’t had to buy anything from my baby yet and he’s 5 months. The only time I buy things is just because I want to. I recently had to get a box of wipes but I didn’t have to pay, I exchanged some of the boxes of diapers that I was gifted and used that money to get wipes and toys for my baby. I felt so loved by everyone. My mom helped me plan mostly everything though
There’s a chance you won’t want to make a ton of visits after baby is born. I would consider that when you think of skipping the shower. I had a really hard time with even the grandparents coming over. The feeding and sleeping schedule was so intense that guests just added to the pressure. Maybe to take the pressure away you do a co ed barbecue or get together? I am the same. I don’t like all of that attention. But I stick with very few close friends, and then family.