Am I overreacting/ in the wrong

My Partner looks after the water bill, and council tax (only two bills rest is in my name) and today he dropped in to conversation that there’s been an issue with our council tax payments (we’re both on the bill he just pays the direct debit). Turns out he hasn’t payed and now they want from last month till next April upfront… but it’s ok apparently because he’s borrowed the money from his dad and will just pay his dad back… I was pissed because it’s in my name too! And then it comes to light he’s never transferred our water to our new house (we moved at the beginning of the year) and even though I’ve been asking about the bills for months he’s been lying to me, telling me the direct debit it set up it’s just the water company not taking payment …. Got the account details from him (he reluctantly gave the info up) logged in and nope no payments since our final payment in January at our OLD HOUSE!!! So we are in debt and he has hidden it from me 😡. Im so angry I can’t even be in the same room as him right now!

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No you are not overreacting this is serious imo, idk what I would do if I was in your shoes, I’d feel the exact same way

That’s such strange behaviour.. so irresponsible and I’d genuinely be questioning why?? I’d be fuming but I’d ask why and as long as he’s ready to deal with the debt etc and accept that you may have to watch over then idk. but again easy for me to talk cos I’d be so mad wtf

Why is he lying?! Is he working? Is he trying to debt problems/gambling? I’d be furious!

Omg bless you! From working in legal recoveries prev this could have totally effected your credit rating if you wanted anything else in the future i would have a serious talk to make sure it gets up to date and never happens again? Lucky that it’s only been within the year. Dont understand why he would do that?! x

Thanks ladies, my trust in him is completely broken! After I posted this I realised I hadn’t seen the council tax letter so went and asked and he had hidden it 😭 we had a bit of an argument after that and his only reasoning is “I was going to fix it and then tell you”. But he doesn’t seem to understand it’s my name on the bill too and I would be In trouble if they came looking for the money too 🤦🏼‍♀️. As for the water bill when the phone lines open at 8am I’m making him phone and transfer to my name, along with changing the council tax direct debit to my name! I don’t trust him one little bit anymore 😢

Ohhh my husband did something like this with car insurance once. He forgot to pay it and just didn’t tell me we didn’t have insurance for MONTHS.. 🫥 I was livid, and you should be too. Bills like this are not to be played with. I honestly took over all of the bills and just do them now because he lost my trust badddd with that one…

I had this with a guy I was dating. I discovered he wasn’t even paying his half of the rent either. Turned out to be a positive as I could then break up with him and not feel guilty. The red flags were there already as he spent every evening down the pub. Hope you get it sorted.

He phoned the water company and they asked to speak to the account holder… me… he opened the account in MY name and never set a direct debit up or told me it was in my name😳 I’m in utter shock! Ive left for work this morning and this evening I’ll be packing myself and my daughter a bag and we are going to stay at my parents while I sort some things out! He was shaking and refusing to call them at first because he knew what he had done!

I’d ask him where the money is going. Must be a reason why he’s lying. Looks like you do it all yourself and he’s a hinderance…

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