Breastfeeding

@Madi thank you for this! I have decided to wean him off slowly so I am dropping a feed at a time and replacing it with already pumped milk I had saved!x

I know exactly what you mean (nipple twist is the worst). Good luck with the transition

@Che thank you so much! I genuinely use to love doing it so much and I am so proud of myself for getting this far! I will have a look for some different bottle teats x

@Apoorva I find he still feeds on demand like a newborn so he could feed as he’s just woken up and then he wants it to fall asleep with as well. I find that night feeds he doesn’t hurt me as much but he still wants feeding 3-4 times through the night and I’m just so tired. Thank you so much for your advice

@Lenka I have tried everything! I cannot feed him around anyone or any noise because he’s much more interested in what’s going on. He now likes to grab my breast and pull and twist his hand in, I can only describe it as he looks like he is actually milking me and it hurts. Thank you so much for the advice!x

I don't have advice about stopping, but my LG is the same like yours right now. In the meantime while you figure out how to transition, try feeding in quiet, darker room, works for us. When she's hungry, I take her into calmer place, do calm play for 5min and then feed, usually she is way better this way. I know what you mean, I have finger marks on my boobs all last week, the world is too interesting to them right now 🙃

Can you try to feed your baby when they are about to sleep?? I see that when my LO is fully awake its hard to feed him and he gets distracted bites and aftwr a few sips doesn’t seem interesting. I moved his feedings to just before his nap times and it worked great. Atleast few meals are easy that way and for the rest in the day i think 2-3 feeds you can try bottles. I suppose night feeds are much more manageable since they are less distracted

As someone who wasn't able to BF but tried so damn hard- well done for getting so far. 👏 My only tip is to think about the teats and flow. The flatter bottle teats are more alike to nipples rather than the typical image of a bottle teat. Also try to ensure the teat flow is as close as your flow.when baby is on breast. These will help make the transition easier x

@Hayleigh thank you so much for your advice and sticking up for me!

@Scarlett thank you so much!

@Ashley as the other girls have said I was only asking for advice, I know feeding my baby is a requirement but your comment was very passive aggressive. If I’m honest I always had in my mind to breastfeed until he was a year old. I know it’s not about me in this sense but I think sometimes you know when enough is enough! All I was asking is how to stop? Do you have any advice in that? If not please just move on

@Ashley absolutely I know it’s not for my enjoyment but why am I suppose to just put my mental health at risk when I know my baby can be fed either way? I am starting to become mentally drained as my baby will not settle for absolutely anymore but me, I’m the one who gets a couple of hours sleep a night, I’m the one that gets punched and scratched the whole time he feeds like I said in my first post. If I felt mentally okay to carry on I would. So everything that’s happening has made me not enjoy breastfeeding anymore and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that! At first I loved it but now five months in I certainly need a break and if that means giving up something I once loved because I don’t enjoy it anymore, so be it!

@Scarlett okie doke (:

@Hayleigh okay (:

@Ashley from the whole of my last comment trying to explain to you how you came across. That one small sentence is what you reply to. I’m not disagreeing with the fact that feeding your baby is a necessity, however a lack of enjoyment is also a valid reason to stop breastfeeding. Maybe you could’ve given some advice to help make it a more enjoyable experience but you didn’t do that, did you?

@Ashley you are back tracking by now saying you’ve said supportive comments which you hadn’t. I cannot comprehend how you don’t understand how your comment may have come across as harsh. If your solution to someone asking for help is to be that rude, I really hope you’re actually okay. We’re here to support eachother, your comment wasn’t supportive but I hope you’ve learnt from it and now we can all move on.

@Scarlett no one has to be with me on anything for me to comment. It's okay. You can disagree. That's fine too. ☺️

@Ashley your comment had nothing to give other than make her feel more guilty. Why are you still going, no one is with you on this. Making a comment like that might seem innocent to you but to someone already feeling guilty and whatever else, it could only make her feel worse and maybe even pressured into continuing. Have some empathy and understanding about how your words have an affect

@Hayleigh I was commenting on part of her post. I'm not back tracking.

@Ashley you did not say about her wanting to stop being okay in your original comment or about your own experiences ( you only did this once I called you out..) which would have been lovely to share instead. Read the room Ashley, you’re now back tracking.

@Scarlett I mean I could say the same to you. She opened her post up to everyone. I just said that feeding a baby isn't for your enjoyment. That's all.

@Hayleigh I didn't shame anyone. I said it's not for her enjoyment because it's not. I also said I get if she wants to stop because her baby hurts her which is part of what she said. My baby hurts me too occasionally so I get it. The only hostile one here is you.

@Ashley then you didn’t need to comment. If you can’t see how that could come across to someone in need of advice and already feeling guilty about thinking of giving up breastfeeding. You had no advice to give, your comment was unnecessary

@Ashley she also said that her baby is distracted and hurting her. You’ve chosen a bitchy comment for no reason 😂 “I’m sorry if you don’t like reality”.. I know the reality sweetheart, I also exclusively breastfeed so don’t try to belittle me. You could have been politer but instead you shamed the OP with a passive aggressive useless comment. I’m just saying that you were harsh when I was under the illusion this app was for support not judgement.

@Hayleigh uhh? She said she didn't enjoy feeding her baby anymore. I said it's not for her enjoyment. Not sure how that's not polite or how to make it any nicer. It's reality. I'm sorry if you don't like reality.

@Ashley the way you worded your comment was harsh 😂 you could have been politer but you chose to be abrasive. Just to expand, you could have said.. “Breastfeeding isn’t for your enjoyment but if it’s hurting you too much, that’s understandable” That’s mixing your two comments together, using your own words and coming up with something far less abrasive, hope this helps! ☺️

@Hayleigh it's not harsh lol. You don't feed your baby for fun, it's their food. Not for your enjoyment. If it's hurting you too much or too mentally draining I get that. I was just saying, it's not for your enjoyment because it's not.

@Ashley bit harsh…

Just saying, breastfeeding isn't for your enjoyment

If you do struggle to get baby onto a bottle, you could try those necklaces you can wear that baby can play with. Hopefully it will keep him focused long enough and a distraction from scratching/punching you

You’ll have to transition baby onto the bottle, you could try pumping and feeding baby that way. Or you can use formula. It might take some time to figure out which bottle he likes. It also might be a little confusing for him at first as the way baby’s use their mouth to breastfeed and bottle feed are different. I’d probably try pumping first so that while he does get used to the bottle, it’s a familiar taste. Until you transition to formula if you decide to