I yell too much.
I need advice. I yell a lot. Primarily at my child (who is 3 and in a very annoying stage of cause and effect, lol). I hate yelling, and i feel like such a horrible mom when i do. I dont even think about it, but sometimes the ONLY way my child will listen is if im getting angry and loud. I dont want to be this way. I have talked with my husband about us both needing to remove ourselves from situations and take a breath before reacting. This sounds great but its very hard to do in immediate situations like my toddler trying to smack the tv while im sitting breastfeeding my baby on the couch. Im looking for advice. I can go days being good and not yelling much because im really trying hard and then it all kinda reverts back. I dont want my children to think im a mean mom. My husband says im a mean mom sometimes. My toddler has started saying "Sorry mama" in times that he hasnt even done anything wrong. I ask him "Why?" And tell him he doesnt have a reason to be sorry. But it makes me think that he thinks hes in trouble all the time? I want to be better. I want to be more patient. Im a stay at home mom and my husband works from 9am-9pm. I generally start getting very overwhelmed/overstimulated around dinner time and i have absolutely no outlet. Someone always needs me. My toddler is always doing something destructive. Idk what to do with myself.