Fear of change

This has probably been posted about before but I’m just in need of some reassurance that I’m not a terrible person/ mum to be… I’m SO excited to become a mum to my baby boy in a couple weeks, it’s all I’ve ever wanted, but as it gets nearer I’m a bit scared of everything changing.. Going from it just being me and my husband, being able to just do things for myself etc. For example, my best friends are all going abroad tomorrow to celebrate one of their 30th birthdays , I was supposed to be going but obviously now I’m not. Of course I’d rather be pregnant but part of me feels gutted I’m not there too. I should say they’ve been incredible throughout my pregnancy and great friends, but they’re at a different stage in life and soon I’m going to have a child to support and care for whereas they can continue how things are. I still get worried they won’t stick around once baby’s here and I end up distanced from them. I hope that doesn’t sound bad 🤦🏼‍♀️ Hopefully I’m making sense, thanks if you’ve read it all, just late night thoughts when I can’t sleep 😅😩

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4 days ago

I definitely felt this first time round, everything does change. The simplest thing is I have not had a good nights sleep for over a year since having my first born (currently preg with second - due end of Oct) It does change but it’s all for the best, it’s no longer you and your hubby/partner but you have a little bundle of joy that smiles at you and it just makes things better, once their a bit older they hug you and nothing can beat it. Don’t get me wrong being a mum is hard, it’s hard work, it’s tireing, it’s draining. I’m running on zero most days now. But you blink your eyes and they grow so just try make the most of it as much as you can. Btw - most of my friends have either had a baby quite recently or are also pregnant now too. If they are good friends they will stick around. Xx

4 days ago

I’m feeling exactly the same, it’s so exciting but also very scary that we will now be responsible for looking after a tiny little human! Also in the same boat as all my friends going away to celebrate a couple of 30ths in a few weeks but me and and my partner now not going due to the fact we will now have a child - but I remember the positives and that we are so so lucky to be in this situation😊 it’s a massive change but will all be worth it when our little boys here xx

5 days ago

Feel exactly same. I have always wanted a baby and battled 5 years of infertility to get there. But now my dream is a reality, I keep wondering about the unknown, what if and embracing change is damn right daunting. Our lives are going change and be different. I/ we have to adjust and remember the incredible journey we are are about to embark but completely get feeling overwhelmed.

5 days ago

I felt/feel the same way... ;) So happy to start this new adventure and at the same time all my beautiful nights and moments with just my partner and I... will be missed. I am scared to miss all these nice trips we had just the two of us and to not be able to have these moments again for a long time. When I went to parties these last months, I was the only pregnant woman or even just thinking about kids. I felt old because I felt a little judged and people were less interested in me for me but more intrigued about our baby and everything was about this conversation wise. At the same time... I think that once we will have our baby in our hands... all these worries will disappear. My partner reassures me time to time and tells me ''it's not the end of something, it's the continuity of our story, an extension of us. We will be fine. It's our both DNAs finally reunited to make one little creature and this will be the strongest bond we could ever have'' 🥹❤️ He is right.