My bf does the same. I make him change wash hands, change shirt, brush his teeth. Our pediatrician still said it’s bad. She said the toxic chemicals get into the skin and hair etc
My mother in law lives with us and smokes, she goes outside and she has to change her shirt and wash her hands before she can hold him. Our pediatrician said that would be fine.
And yes I’ve had multiple conversations with him regarding safety with our LO. I’ve tried educational video, pediatrician has spoken to him, I’ve tried couples counseling. I don’t know what else to do.
My mum smokes when I go to visit, as long as he does change wash etc you will be fine! With regards to the safety unfortunately I have nothing to offer but a shoulder 🩵