Thanks for tips. I am working on the not interrupting sometimes its just to ask questions but i know it’s distracting
My friend interrupts and it’s extremely annoying. I would say that’s the only one thing you really need to work on
@Bibi🇿🇼 💯 Sometimes you just have to find your complimentary personality people 😁 Also, sharing similar stories is a very normal way to relate to others in conversation.
I have a close friend like this. And I’m not much of a talker, so I just let her talk endlessly It’s not necessarily a bad thing as long as you also listen when your friends talk
I find myself doing the same. Always have, try not too
@Valerie thanks for tips. I try to do that. I feel I was better before I had my kid at having more balanced conversations. I try to ask questions, probably need to talk less about their story reminding of my story. And just share separate. I think its my attempt at relating but probably comes off as one upping
It takes a savy person to catch themselves and admit to overtalking/one upping/interrupting! So good for you! I was taught very young (and I'm trying to also teach my girls), "Listen to hear, not reply." It's easier said than done... especially if something the other person says "reminds you of... >insert your story<" or "oh, I've been there too... >insert your story<", etc. You have to consciously listen to what they are saying. After you listen, ask them a few questions about what they said, or repeat back to them something they said that you found interesting or made you think. It's a good exercise to slow yourself down from jumping right in and forces you to be present with the other person. And it will make them feel like you are paying attention/taking interest. 😊
Thank you ladies. I always leave a conversation thinking I am conversation hog and thats why i dont have more current friends 🫣
Same! I am excited to talk to anybody other than my kids ))) don’t feel bad, nothing wrong with that. I can relate to everything you just said. The more you talk the better the chance you click with that person
I also talk a lot since I’m a sahm. I don’t have friends so I’m just happy to talk to anyone except children that barley understand what I’m talking about. You’re not alone.
@Ina you get it :)