Narcissist parents

My mother is very narcissistic. Growing up she was physically and mentally abusive towards me. I started doing EMDR therapy for my PTSD. But I keep having dreams of her screaming at me. I've tried expressing my feelings to her and she gets very confrontational.

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I hate to sound pessimistic but I think that if your mother is narcissistic she is unlikely to admit to any wrongdoing on her end. I think the healthiest thing to do is to decide what your boundaries are, accept that she will not understand them and may challenge them, but stick to your guns and do what you think is best for you. Unfortunately you can’t make someone understand where you’re coming from if they are committed only to their own narrative.

I agree. It's just very frustrating because she doesn't treat my younger siblings the way she treats me. It's clear there's favoritism.

I tried to talk to my mom about this at 44 years old and of course she made it all about her and wouldn't accept her faults. Some people will never change. And you can't make them. So j just have to love my mom from a distance. She'll never admit what she did to me and how she treated me. She told me she would never be ready for that conversation with me. It hurts but I have my life to live and I can't dwell on her anymore. I know how not to treat my children. I admit when I'm wrong. I say sorry and I tell them I love them constantly. You don't have to put up with your moms mess. I know it hurts. You can be better than her and live your own life with love and happiness.

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My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

Can someone speak on drug screening and c section?

I smoked all through my first pregnancy and tested positive didn’t have any issues a social worker came in and spoke to me and hubby and that was it but this time I’m having an elective c section and wondering did they drug test you there?