Husband makes weight gain ‘jokes’

First time Mom here, I was 188lbs when I found out I was pregnant. At 20 weeks, I’m currently 205lbs. My husband has been making these weight gain ‘jokes’ that I find not to be funny. In the 1st trimester, it was a bit funny but now that I’m noticing the weight gain, it’s making me uncomfortable and self conscious. I’ve told him numerous times to stop making jokes but he doesn’t. My new come back is “I know plenty of men who love them a pregnant woman so tread lightly” which I know I shouldn’t have said but shit, that made him feel uncomfortable & a win is a win. But who really wins? 🤦‍♀️ anyways, he has said he wants to try for another one after we have our first, but I don’t think I’m up for it. Not because I don’t want another one (because I do) but because of the self consciousness that comes with being pregnant while married to him. It’s not grounds for divorce but it really does sucks feeling like this…

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Have you tried asking how he would feel in your shoes? What you’re doing is a beautiful natural thing and of course you’re gonna gain weight I’m sure he realises that but you should be made to feel beautiful the whole time you’re carrying not feel like you should run and hide or feel embarrassed just because of one insensitive persons comments. If he wants another baby with you he needs to accept the changes that are gonna happen to your body and tread lightly in that respect. It’s possible he’s scared cos he’s seeing the changes and shit is getting real so cracking jokes he how he deals also he may have his own weight insecurities. Good luck gorgeous lady x

Have you told him you feel this way, and that it makes you not want to have another baby with him? Men tend to just be oblivious sometimes and they (typically) don’t have/don’t understand the level of self-consciousness and body image issues that women often deal with. So - he could just be a jerk, but he also could just not realize his jokes aren’t funny or not realize the extent they actually bother you. I hope you can work it out and come to an understanding. Your mom-bod is beautiful. If he wants more kids with you he obviously thinks so too and just doesn’t show it well. 💕

@Lara this is a really good point! Maybe he has his own body insecurities and is projecting.

@Autumn I haven’t told him I don’t want another baby with him but I have told him it makes me feel uncomfortable. I never laugh at his jokes. And you’re absolutely correct ! The fact that he wants another baby tells me he doesn’t really mind the body but then why the ‘jokes.’ I appreciate your kind words Autumn 💖 I really needed to hear that

@Loverly I have no idea but when I post a picture on Instagram and the comments start flowing in, he blends right in with the compliments. But at home, it’s a different vibe. It’s confusing asf.

Make comments about his weight and see how he feels. Also explain how it makes you feel rather than just asking him to stop.

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