Baby saying dada to the wrong person

you say “we are still unsure” but at the end you’re trying to ask how to reassure him it’s his baby. is it both of you unsure or just you? because if it’s him as well there’s nothing to do unless he really wants a paternity test to really know.

not trying to be rude but how does it feel to date your brother in law ? why not just take the test ?

That’s fukn weird lol 😂

So what’s the timeline that this happened? Did you date his brother before you were married?

It really got deeper every sentence I read omfg girl what is you doinnnn 👀😂

So you slept with both at the same sort of time? I'm a bit confused + unsure if you're just kidding lol

in what world is your 4 month old talking?? i can probably guarantee he’s not saying dada

Your child deserves to know when they are older who there biological father is, so I would just take a DNA test to find out who’s actually the father. If it’s the brother and he doesn’t step up then it is what it is, your husband then has the decision as to wether he’s okay raising his brothers child. If it’s your husbands child, it’s a winner all round. But regardless, your child still has the right to know biologically who his father is.

Wow! Just wow! I'm not sure how you can reassure someone when you're not sure of it. For the baby sake take the test so the baby can know who's the dad and who's the uncle

Dada is a common word that all babies say first; but it sounds like he forgave u since your still together but the “unknown” stressful enough let alone not being considerate of your husband feelings to know whose the real dad; so tbh I would just do the at home test, it’s like $65 on Amazon, swap ur baby and hubby mouth and send it off & get results in a week or less but that’s only thing that’s gonna give him reassurance

@Kitty I conceived in August and found out in September. I was dating them both in June and July. And sometimes they both were on the same day.

so you were cheating?

@Eilidh he did. It was in front of all of us. So you can doubt that as much as you want but he did. And he's gonna be 6 months soon so not that uncommon.

@brook not technically. My husband and I split and we both dated and slept with other people

@Poppy yes, both of them agree the same time.

@Naquaishaaa 💜 most people think it would be weird but I didn't. I enjoyed dating both of them. They're both my best friends so it wasn't really that weird for us. The reason I haven't wanted to do a test is because I don't want it to be my brother in laws kid. He's stated many times that he never wants kids. And if it says that he's the father then my son grows up without a father and I don't want that. I grew up that way and it sucked big time

but would have sex with both of them on the same day? there is no not technically. you either cheated or you didn’t and by the sounds of it you cheated.

ON THE SAME DAYYYYY Girl can I come over for thanksgiving I bet the family tea is HOTTT 😮‍💨😩

@Julia Villalon OUU I WANNA GO TOOOO

I'm coming too

This is like a reality show

All yall need to sit down as adults and talk about this cause at the end of the day it's about the baby not what yall got going on the father and the son deserves to know the truth as well as you sweetie cause this would eat me alive

I’m confused. If your husband will accept the baby now without knowing for sure…why would the results change that? Is he going to leave you if your son is not his? If he chooses, he can still be the father of your son even if he isn’t biologically. We all make mistakes. As far as we know, this is our first time living life but we have to be cautious of our decisions because they can result in permanent consequences.

@Katelin I think we assume the baby is 4 months old because your profile says he is and thats based off the birthday you provided 🤷🏻‍♀️ but girl, get the test done. Your husband has clearly accepted it may not be his child anyways...

Paternity test in secret? If it says your partner than show it to him for proof. If not then delete/hide results? Idk. I would tell him that kids say 'dadda' or 'momma' to the wrong people sometimes. I sometimes have kids I never met before calling me mamma. It happens

Why would you continue having sex with him if he repeatedly said he never wants children??? For most marriages sleeping with someone’s else sibling would be deal breaker. Was birth control used?

@Katelin interesting , poor baby deserves to know who his father is . no ?

Someone PLEASE send an application into TLC. I will be tuned in for every episode

@Kitty I was told for years that I would never be able to carry a baby because my ex abused me. So I didn't even think that it was ever going to happen. Yes birth control was used but it still happened.

Ok but what if one day your kid learns that his uncle might actually be his dad? Being a dad is not only being a bio one. It might be better to know who the dad is now...

So you were cheating on at least one of them at the time then or were you just not with any of them but sleeping with them both? What a mess, I'd love to be a fly on the wall at family Christmas 🤣

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My daughter calls everyone dada including me 😂 i would just assure him your little one isnt able to know these things yet x

This is so dysfunctional

Where’s Jeremy Kyle when you need him

You can't reassure him, the way he reacted would indicate on some level he is not happy with the situation. You physically cannot reassure because you simply don't know. BUT I would sit down and have a conversation with your husband and ask if he really truly is ok with the situation and not knowing for sure if baby is his bio. If he says he is then I would advise couples therapy to work through any issues and solo for him to so that he can come to terms with the situation. If none of these things are agreeable then take the paternity test and be prepared to raise the lo as a single mum. Good luck 👍🏻

My daughter Calls her big brother dada, he is obviously not her dada.