Baby shower ruined

She doesn’t sound like your friend anyway. Tell her she was childish for that and you expected better. Drop her off and carry on. It was your baby shower not a 5 year olds birthday party. Especially the blaming too .. no thank you 😒

So you went out of your way pregnant, to drive her 7 hours to your baby shower and having to drive her back, 14 hours total.. and she yelled at you in front of your guests at the baby shower? She sounds entitled.. I wouldn't even give her a ride home, I would just let her figure it out

That’s not a good friend please don’t let that toxic relationship around you or your baby

Your not wrong. It was a reaction. I would have reacted the same way but I probably would have hit her tbh. Like personal space, hello?

I feel very bad and I did traumatize her a little because she’s out of state and she doesn’t know these people. The fact that I went after her after she shoved the cupcake in my face was definitely wrong. We talked about it and I see where she’s coming from. She’s definitely downplaying the way I feel because she’s saying how she spent a lot of money on me and I swung on her over a cupcake in front of my whole family. Idk how to fix this. It’s insane. The other friend I’m with is also mad for the way I treated her over it. I know I over reacted but in that moment I was SO angry. I did find it very rude but she doesn’t see it like that.

That’s awful!!!! She shouldn’t of did it just because someone told her tooo that dosent make any sense sorry that happened and ruined your day🥺🥺🥺😭

Why would a friend smash something in your face, yikes! I’m upset for you. Just because someone told her to do it, she didn’t have to. You are pregnant and hormones are different, she shouldn’t have done that. These women aren’t your friends if they don’t understand. Idc how much money she spent on you, she shouldn’t have done that.

Your not wrong I would’ve been super pissed if someone ruined my baby shower too… it’s not a birthday party there was no reason for her to smash a cupcake in your face especially after your hair and makeup is done… even if she was trying to be “funny” it’s not funny at all 😒 and her threatening to beat your ass while your pregnant?? Yeah no… that’s not a real friend at all!

yeah that’s freakin ridiculous.. I am 42 years old, have had two baby showers along with my sisters four baby showers in total and NOT ONCE was that even a thing.. that is beyond upsetting.. It’s YOUR baby shower! It was Your day.. what the hell.. I would just let that go. She needs to be the one apologizing..

You have every right to be upset & she sounds like a shit friend.

@Glenda and that’s what I thought too. When I bring it up she just says I didn’t have to swing on her over a cupcake because we can just wipe it off. I get where I went wrong but she says she doesn’t see why I was mad at all and how I could swing on her over that. I admitted where I went wrong but she can’t seem to see where she did and said “I just can’t get over the fact you tried to swing on me over a cupcake and I don’t get it” she said she doesn’t feel she’s wrong about it and when she’s explaining it I do feel stupid because it’s just a cupcake and we can fix it but she also has to understand that although it seemed like a joke to her I felt very disrespected weather someone told her to do it or not.

Okay I think she is wrong I also think your reaction was wrong and your feelings are very valid however you probably couldn’t control your reaction so I get it. Maybe that’s what she is use to during celebrations. They do that in my family as well. We just pick and choose when. Who told her to do it ? I think she should apologize for doing it especially because she hurt your feelings and right now you’re extra sensitive. I think you were right to apologize for swinging on her. But her feelings are just as valid as yours is. I don’t think she tried to ruin your day. But if shoes were on the other foot and she swung on you; you probably would have yelled at her out of reaction. She probably felt extremely embarrassed as well when you swung on her. I think you guys might be okay. Well if ya truly are best friends. Me and my best friend ain’t talk in 5 years and started talking again, and now when we hurt each other feelings we know how to approach it or we step away and come back

And talk about it. If she is really your friend and same with you guys, ya will come out of it.

Yeah, she is not your friend, and she needs to find her own way home. She basically assaulted you, went out of her way to humiliate you at your own baby shower, and is now gaslighting you into thinking she did nothing wrong and it was all your fault. If she were a stranger, the police would be involved. 🙄 Cut this girl off and make a better friend. She's not worth it. She should've apologized immediately, and the fact that she still hasn't is a giant red flag.

There’s more guys this don’t endddd. I can to see my family and have a baby shower that is it. I don’t want to be up and around doing things all day. I’m uncomfortable as it is and can barely sleep because I can’t get comfortable and gotta get up multiple times. It’s 10:53 am here. It was 4:30am when they was trying to have me go back to the hotel. I slept at my moms house and left my friends at the hotel even though they had just met on this trip. After everything went down at my baby shower they left together and went on a drive in the hills. I stayed the night at my moms because it’s quiet and they aren’t tryna wake me up to go do something. I get this is a vacation for her but I came to have my baby shower and see my family THATS IT. There’s nothing else to do here anyways. She said she could’ve done this alone at home. I told her before the trip we was coming for my baby shower. After the whole incident I did need space and she’s just yelling at me

My other friend is also from here. She wanted to go see her grandparents today but didn’t because I wasn’t there at the hotel. I don’t see why my friend couldn’t sit in the hotel for a couple hours. Idk if that’s the worst thing in the world. I get it but all she wants to do is argue with me and tell me how wrong I am which I get but I don’t want to be nagged my whole trip. When we went to the mall to see one of my friends she didn’t wanna sit there so went shopping on her own and FaceTimes her bf the whole time. Idk guys I’m just upset and they aren’t understanding how I feel in this situation at all. I would’ve been fine to sit in a hotel room for a few hours I would get it if she went to go see her family.

People don't tell you this about having a baby, but it's very lonely. Your group of friends change. You're put in a spot where you have to put yourself first and you won't be able to accommodate friendships anymore. A lot of them don't make it or stay in that next chapter of your life and it's for the best..

In this situation I don’t think you are overreacting. Regardless of your emotions, the event wasn’t meant for that type of situation. Who smashes cake in a person’s face during a baby shower!? You were dressed nice I am sure & makes it even more crazy she decided to do that! I would’ve laid hands on her too because IDGAF who told you to do something, why would you do that to me!? Now my outfit ruined, makeup ruined, mood ruined! She would have been finding her own way back home lol messing with me 🙄. But when you do talk to her, mention how it made you feel and how you do not understand why she decided to do that.

She’s smashed something into your face, the fact it was a cupcake is irrelevant. You could technically argue that what she did to you first was assault. She set out to embarrass you and to get a laugh at your expense. An exciting day that you’ve probably been waiting a long time for. Probably spend good money on an outfit, have your hair and makeup done nice. Wanting to take photos to cherish for a lifetime. Show your baby one day. She ruined your appearance, ruined your mood, ruined your day and ruined your memories. You’ve admitted your wrongs (although I’m sure many of us would have reacted the same way), but she can’t admit hers and continues to justify her actions and gaslight you in the mean time. She is not a friend, time to say goodbye.

@Krystal I probably would had taken a swing too if it caught me off guard like that., You don’t need that stress.. forget her.. she should honestly just apologize..

It sounds like she was trying to ruin your special day & then threatening you when you’re pregnant. Block & delete that psycho. You deserve better friends. I am sorry you went through that. I didn’t have anything that bad happen but an ex friend who I tried getting reacquainted w/ showed up at my baby shower w/ her mom and commented “ wow I never thought we would see Marie looking so big” & hogged every conversation I tried having. It all just bugged me a-lot & made me realize why I cut contact before.

I’m so sorry that this happened to you! I’m sure she didn’t have ill intentions but it was a very stupid and unnecessary thing to do. She didn’t take your feelings into consideration and clearly didn’t understand the value and importance of this event for you. Don’t overthink your reaction, you’re pregnant & you were on display, she took you completely off guard. I hope that you can resolve this matter for your own well being and find some peace!!