Husband pressuring me for sex
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I’m so sorry. I wish I had advice or something but I just want to validate that this is not what you need or deserve right now.
I’m so sorry that ur going through that . I think that’s absolutely disgusting of him to be forcing sex on you when you clearly are in an uncomfortable state and not giving consent . I don’t know where you are financially in life but I see huge red flags and would opt to leave the situation asap . Threatening to cheat is the most childish thing a man can do and how you’re explaining things it almost sound like he’s fetishized over u being pregnant and doesn’t no ho to control his Boner and take care of himself if the urge arises !
Woah. Not cool at all. He needs to respect you. Everything you’ve mentioned sounds like he needs a reality check and honestly to grow TF up. There is no reason for him to hold sex above the magical experience you should be having while pregnant. I hate he is making this the opposite for you. And to threaten to cheat on you… just wow. You deserve someone who adores you and respects you!! And that is not it!!! I honestly would really take some time to think about if this is how you want to be treated, and maybe reevaluate. You deserve SOOO much more than that. My heart broke some reading this. Take care of you and that baby, momma ❤️
Girl. First, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I also had a miscarriage right before this pregnancy and it definitely affected my libido, but I was lucky cuz it was only for a few weeks and the hormones took over my sex drive. But it doesn't really matter the why, what matters is that you're not feeling it and should NEVER be pressured into it. Second, what he is doing is emotional abuse and can be considered sexual abuse as well. Sure he's got needs, BUT SO DO YOU, and even though yours are more emotional than sexual right now, he's not meeting them and making YOU feel guilty about what YOU NEED. That is not ok!! This would be so not ok even if you weren't pregnant. You don't threaten someone with cheating to scare them into sleeping with you I mean wtaf why does he think that's ok?! My 2 cents, you guys should seek couples counseling, at minimum you should seek a talk therapist for yourself
My fiancé has NEVER. Anytime I tell him no. He always ask how if I’m feeling okey and than we usually talk if I want too or we just cuddle and sleep. And I’m no way am I bragging I want you to know that that the way he is acting isnt okey. Sex isn’t a “need” it’s a want. And for him to get mad is not okey. Especially since you are growing a human in your body and it seems he couldn’t give two shits how your feeling. Momma I support you and your situation but in no way would I let my friends go through this. That right there screams narcissistic. The fact he couldn’t even get you a glass of water baffles me. If I could I would drive to your house right now and fix you a big breakfast with your glass of water cause he obviously wasn’t raised right! If you need anything please lmk🩵💜
Threatening to cheat on you??? Wtf! No husband sounds better than that husband. My husband is a bit the opposite. I want to be intimate, but he is worried about the baby because I had a placental hematoma early in pregnancy where we were not allowed to be intimate. I would never even THINK of threatening to cheat just because I want that more than he does; he is nervous about the baby. Why would anyone want to do things with someone nervous or reluctant. That's gross. There are so many intimate things that aren't s*x.
This is emotionally abusive behavior from him. Trying to coerce sex from anyone is wrong, but it’s especially atrocious when the person is your pregnant wife. Threatening, guilt tripping, silent treatment followed up by gaslighting, these are all classic emotional abuse tactics. At a time when he should be especially understanding, devoted, and loving, he is instead treating you like less than a person. Please know that you don’t deserve that, his behavior is wrong, and you have every right to put him in his place.
What you’re feeling is valid. It’s frustrating and hurtful. I’m so sorry you have to experience this! In no way should a husband ever pressure his wife, especially if you’re pregnant, to have sex. My husband and I have clear rules because of my bad experiences with sexual assault, and if I don’t feel comfortable or want it,it’s an automatic no. He will wait and respectfully hold me to get his fill on connection. If this continues to happen, if it’s possible I would take a break and reevaluate what’s going on and what you could do for you. It sounds like he’s not very compassionate towards what you are facing. I’m so sorry this is your experience. 😢
I am so sorry you’re dealing with this my love. My heart breaks for you reading your story here. What your husband is doing is not okay whatsoever. He may have needs, but he’s an adult man. It isn’t that hard to go without for a few days/weeks/months. Please do not feel bad or selfish for not giving in to him- and please make him wait postpartum you need those 6+ weeks to recover especially mentally, I don’t foresee him being a safe partner to be that intimate with at that time until you are 100% there. I’m so sorry your partner has lost any understanding of compassion for you, his wife. You are so much more than a sexual partner and you deserve to be seen for all of the amazing things you are doing right now inside and outside your womb. You’re not wrong for needing time and space before sex while pregnant. I’ve been there and it is hard my husband has had to wait a month or two at a time because of how sick/uncomfortable I have been throughout. You are 100% not alone in this 💕💕💕💕
That is absolutely horrible, disgusting behavior. My husband has an incredibly high libido and wants sex all the time and tries to initiate frequently, but he never pressures me, insults me for turning him down, or makes me feel bad for how I’m feeling. The fact that your husband is threatening to cheat on you and dismissing your feelings shows that he doesn’t care about you. His “needs” are not a priority when you’re struggling. He needs to get over it. A caring husband does not behave like this. Your feelings are valid and most women would feel hurt if they’re experiencing what you’re currently going through.
Girl no. I am so incredibly sorry. Your husband sounds like an utter piece of trash and you do not deserve that whatsoever. I understand needs but right now YOUR needs come before and for him to even think about cheating while you're carrying his baby or in general is such a red flag. If he can't get his shit together, I'd honestly start making an exit plan and save those texts and whatever proof you can of how he's treating you. You did nothing wrong.