Ranting about partner
Anyone else pp (I'm 4 weeks) and just want to punch their partners in the throat?
Overall mine is actually very good, he's picked up a lot of the cooking, housework etc. but he's SO critical.. whilst he regularly tells me I'm a perfect Mum and doing a great job, he also makes me feel crap.. he's very apologetic if I get upset, I just wish he'd think before he speaks..
He's back at work and I let him sleep all night every night so he's fit to be at work and help out on a weekend allowing me to rest a bit. The thing is he doesn't wake up no matter how much baby wails so there isn't really another option.
What's really driving me mad though is the criticism of everything.. doesn't matter what it is there's always a "you need to..", "you're supposed to.." or literally takes whatever it is off me.. I appreciate the help, it's just the way he does it..
Yesterday we went to a bike show, we've also been to a car show and seen several of his friends despite my now only being 4weeks pp, still quite sore from third degree tears and struggling to get my iron levels back up from blood loss; yesterday I obviously did too much and today I'm bleeding a bit more again and generally feeling pained and crappy. This morning he told me to take it easy so we set up camp in the bedroom and spent the day having snuggles, naps, watching Netflix etc. When he got home from work he spent half an hour sitting in his car watching videos then came in. We were in the bedroom and the first thing he said is "have you been in bed all day?" Then asked why I hadn't woken baby up to feed him as I said I was doing his bottle before he left work.. baby was asleep and not at the max 4 hour mark, bottle was next to me cooling.
I'm just so tired of the constant critique.. he's just over 4 weeks old, I do 95% of his care (naturally - no complaints there) and despite a second hospital stay & a couple of scares, he's a content healthy baby.. like leave me alone! It's hard but I wouldn't change it and I'm doing my best.
*Incognito as I know people in the group*