Husband not attracted to me anymore

To keep things short, my husband said he can't imagine sex between us again because he sees me as our sons mum first and finding it hard to see me as I was before our child. We had a really difficult first 18 months with our son being hospitalised 8 times, for a total of 4 months and having a disability. I'm not the same person I was before and carrying a lot of trauma which I'm working through in therapy. But like....I can't help that!! I am a mum and I can't turn back time. Any advice or suggestions?
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Totally normal feeling to have for the both of you. I am glad he is open to go to therapy, and I'm sure he is grateful for you to be proactive to suggest this as he knows how much you care about him. Trust the process, it will be a ride but generally most couples benefit from a guided hand to help them both navigate how they're feeling and why and to understand each other more. Sending you lots of good vibes ✨️ 💕

Thanks everyone, I feel really supported by your lovely comments 💖 he has said he wants to go to therapy too so that's hopeful. I think he has tried to stay strong for our family and it's catching up with him now so lots to work through. I really want to try to make it work, go on some dates and get the spark back, but I feel so heartbroken and pretty afraid to initiate anything in case I get rejected again 😔

Hey, I’m sorry you are going through that. I can’t imagine how I’d feel if my husband said that to me. You mentioned that your son has a disability, how did/is your husband coping with it? The lack of intimacy could be guilt related to the difficulties related to your son, actually could have nothing to do with you..

I feel so terrible for you 😞 💔 that is not an easy thing to hear. I feel (I would hope) that he is carrying some of that trauma as well. He's worried about his baby's health first and his mind is not on you. I think he would benefit from some therapy as well, without you being there in case there's something he needs to get off his chest that's holding him back from being intimate with you again. Only you know what's best for your relationship but if some deep talks and therapy don't work, then you're just co-parenting and you're not really husband and wife anymore 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m sorry, but don’t blame yourself. Don’t blame your child either … because y’all would’ve been parents regardless of hospital visits, disabilities, etc. That’s a personal problem on his end, he’s not sexually attracted only it seems (could be for a plethora of reasons that can be fixed with proper communication). Did he express exactly why or what he means? Is he willing to join some type of couples therapy with you?

Oh that's so rough. I don't have any experience in this, but I am so sorry you're going through this. You are one strong mumma 💪 ❤️ Could he attend therapy with you? Sometimes a mediator can uncover why he is saying this to you, and how it makes you feel, and going together for the sake of a potentially happy family (for the sake of your child)? Else it can help provide closure 😌 And allow you to not feel so hurt. Sounds like you've already been through so much and the extra support to help you navigate this with your husband might even be a bit of a relief?

Not for nothing I think that’s bull because they’re a lot men out there who are in even more love with the mother of their child he is just probably looking for a cop out but even so I hope all goes well with therapy and everything.just know that you are worth it.and don’t let no one make you feel less than or subpar

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