So apparently i hurt my mother in law feelings 🤦🏻♀️ me and my partner decided to take my mother in law and his grandmother to dinner. At dinner she said she had a question for me.
She asked me when will the baby be allowed to spend the night at her place, my response was when she is one or maybe 2.
She got upset and said no way that’s crazy, are you serious wow.
I said didn’t he tell you this, we spoke about it and he agrees, he told me he already had said this to you.
She said no and was starting to cry, when the food came and conversation was changed.
While we eating her niece walks in and joins us for dinner. She tells the niece you not going to believe what she told me referring to me with a attitude, proceeded to tell her niece i told her the baby wouldn’t be sleeping over till she one or maybe 2 year old, her niece said yes that’s normal my baby is 18 months and she haven’t spend the night with anyone and I’m not planning on that any time soon, referring to her daughter.
His mom responded by saying ooh your son was always spending the night with me and her niece responded, well i was living with you thats why and its different with girls is a different attachment. Well she got mad at her niece too. Conversation ended.
We go drop off his mom and grandma and she invites us upstairs, while at her place she shares with her 16 and 23 year old how I said the baby couldn’t spend the night till she is 1 or 2
The 13 year old said, you know how many kids she raised with a attitude, the 23 year old said wow that’s insane, that’s to long.
The conversation quickly was changed.
Shortly after that she starts talking about how she already planning the baby first birthday, my partner said no we don’t know what we doing yet and we don’t want anything over the top, her response to him was I’m going to do what ever i want as extra as i want in my place, he said something like no she said well ya don’t need to come 🥴
To be honest any other time I would’ve said idk about that question asked at dinner but she has been acting insane.
Purchasing bed for baby, high chair and everything she would need for baby to be at her place. She has been pushing to go to sonograms, telling me in multiple occasions not to take epidural, not as a advice but demand. Planning baby first birthday party.
I asked my partner why haven’t he cleared all this things out with his mother. He said he has had this conversation many times but she doesn’t understand, and he said at this point i dont need to be explaining to any of them because i already told them what is going to be. when the baby is here we are going to show them.
All of this is honestly making very uncomfortable and anxious. I’m currently 37 weeks