Hey there, I just want to say that I struggled with depression anxiety for years. I did find that TMS therapy helped with my chronic depression but also mildly with my anxiety. But I will tell you when I move to Florida that my anxiety picked up again and it was pretty chronic and crippling. What really helped me was to see a therapist and also do some shadow work. If you are in Florida there are some people I know who can help you with this, but you may also be projecting these feelings to your child's. Children are very sensitive to energy is so of you have high anxiety and even higher anxiety around his family. Then your baby could be feeling that and that's why they are probably reacting the way they are. If I had to guess you probably feel more comfortable with your family than with your husband's family....
@Brenda but I will definitely try to keep seeking help. Thank you again❤️
@Brenda hello, thank you so much for all your comments and help. My mother in law actually came round to see my son one evening and he was amazing with her, laughing and smiling which was lovely. So I think you’re right it’s the environment which ends up upsetting him. Too many people and too overwhelming, plus also picking up on how I’m feeling. I’ve mention to my mother in law that she can come round any time and she should do more often, but the problem is I have a big dog and she’s very scared of them. I do put him in another room but she still says she’s uncomfortable. I think what I struggle with is everyone seems to look to me for answers with why my son gets as upset as he does, but I’m trying my best to get him more comfortable, and he also has his own personality - who knows, he might end up being similar to his dad and preferring his own space and being around few people, I really don’t know. But I’m also hoping he will grow out of this phase.
I think therapy is great.it helps alot it can be a scary at 1st, but it helps a lot Don't stoping to get into therapy. Like I said, it helps to have someone to talk to.for real
Oh, and your baby is super adorable, btw 😊
You deserve to have some friends or some supportive people to talk to. I don't know if what I said here helps at all. I would like to be helpful to you. Thank you for sharing
I'm happy you're reaching out to chat & sharing it good sometimes to get things off your crest.
If they are negative and unsupported maybe it better that you get them some space.
Hello Lilly, I feel you must do what's best for you and your little one. I'm happy to hear you are close to your mother and others on your side of the family, so you have support for yourself and the baby, which is so important. I understand being such a home-body and preferring to be alone with just you and baby. I'm similar. I know it's hard, but I think it will get easier when the baby gets a little bigger. The baby probably sences your uncomfortable there becomes upset. Baby is smart in this way. they pick up on how you feel around others. I see how so many people can become overwhelming. When there are a lot of people there. Causes not only you to become over stimulated but the baby too. Maybe mom in law can come see you and baby at a park where there is not so much going on. It could be calmer and easier on you and baby. Or start slow with phone call or short video chat when your ready. Maybe you can tell her how you feel talk with her since she loves you all Maybe she will understand.
Sorry I also just want to add, my partner’s family are extremely close knit. They all gather at his grandma’s house every evening and spend time today, everyday without fail. So me, my partner and my son really stand out with not joining with everyone. My partner doesn’t have a problem with it, he prefers not to go also for his own reasons. But this just adds to my anxiety because 30+ family members are all together all the time but we’re the odd ones out, which fuels my overthinking even more because god knows what they must think of me😔 I never call or text them, any interaction with them brings me so much anxiety because of everything. I just feel like I don’t fit in.
I’m sorry, I didn’t read all of your post. I also have bpd, anxiety, adhd & autism so I was only able to focus on the part where you have told them your struggles yet they expect you to go to them rather than them come to you. My family are the same. My children wouldn’t see their family if it wasn’t for me going to them. Granted baby daddy is not involved but if he and his family were then I’d defo be saying they come here & nothing else. Sending you lots of love and if you want to chat I’m always here xx