Sex with partner- need advice

Now 7 months pp and haven’t had any interest in sex whatsoever (although we have had it usually at least once every two weeks). Had a long chat with my partner about it at the weekend which he brought up basically saying he’s really struggling not having it. I apologised and said I don’t have any interest at the moment (don’t think breastfeeding helps?). Last night (like nearly every night) he put it on me in bed after asking me to come off of my phone for a ‘cuddle’ which escalated to kissing and him getting on top of me to which I said I don’t really want to, he joked around saying come on, I felt like I just couldn’t be bothered, I knew I wasn’t going to enjoy it! Our daughter started to wake up and cry so I moved away to which he said “oh look you’ve got what you wanted” and rolled over. I don’t know how I feel about the whole situation. Kind of disregarded my feelings of not wanting it. Am I being over the top? Because I’ve mentioned it and he’s said ‘what exactly are you insinuating’ !
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I was in this same position! We were at it till I went into labour😂🤦🏼‍♀️ (I had c section) and also breastfeeding I had no want for it but one night the same happened with us and I thought sod it will give it ago and it wasn’t pleasurable at all I missed it but it hurt probably as I was still swollen (4 weeks PP)😂🤦🏼‍♀️ and then the other night we tried again and it just felt right and we both enjoyed it (6weeks pp) I think it’s the dread of it that put me off doing it the discomfort it would possibly cause me not feeling nice within myself etc but I guess we just broke through the barrier xx

@Tani we had a big conversation about it at the weekend and I said I don’t know what to do, I can’t just magically make myself interested and I definitely don’t want to do it when I don’t want to. Any advice on how to get it back? :(

I feel like I had a similar experience with my partner during trimester 1 due to hyperemesis. I always felt pressured and as if I was letting him down. The thing that worked best for us was having an open conversation (maybe out of the bedroom over coffee or on a walk) where we could both freely say what’s on our mind/how we feel. You could also maybe suggest him pleasuring himself or if you’re up to it just pleasing him with hands?

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